*hugs* Matt, this took a lot, and was obviously a long time coming.
I do not even guess at what happened in your relationship. I know that my own divorce and subsequent friendship comes with trials and road bumps that I am trying to hurdle...because he *does* mean that much to me.
I wish you only the best, Really, for all involved. It should not have to hurt every day forever.
I'm glad you finally put this all out there. I hope it will work as it's meant to, and be a cleansing moment in your life. And I hope that for once, it will make an impact where it needs to.
Thanks. I don't know if it is a cleansing moment yet, we will have to wait and see. And I share your hopes for the impact. I tried very hard to not be bitter, some part were harder than others, but I really wanted to try to inform Melinda and anyone else that reads her journal of the ex-husband that was so horrible to her. I hope she can learn from what I said and not just bloke it out because it is painful and difficult for her to deal with. I don't expect to hear from her for anymore advice or personal opinions that she seemed to hold in such great regard.
I know I can call and chat with you more. I'm just not that good at it really. I like face to face, it tends to flow better. I don't post on here or Facebook because I don't see my daily life exciting enough to talk about and I don't want to repeat what Susan posts due to the friends we share would have to see the same things twice.
I'm glad to, and hope that it was enough for me to heal properly. I had finally had enough of being called on as a friend by the same person who showed no remorse or even tact of our past together.
I think I might start coming back out into the social light, but baby steppes. I don't need to blind myself by the light either. ;) I'm glad to know that people did actually read it though. I didn't desire any type of responses, just to know that people did read it. I figured a lot of people were waiting for such an event to occur.
I haven't even looked at LJ in I don't know how many years, I simply don't care about it much anymore but I had to come here to read this. I had no idea that what I would find would be this powerful.
I knew a tiny bit of what was going on in this whole situation but I never would have believed that it was this fucked up. Never believed that is, unless it came straight from you. I've known you for over ten years, and in all that time I'm hard pressed to name someone I know who is more honest or more giving. You definitely deserve fantastic things in life, I hope that you will find peace with all of this and find what it is you are looking for.
Thanks, but do remember that I chose that hell. And "that which does not kill us makes us stronger" leaves out the pain and broken and healing parts that happen to reach the strong part. Damn shorten parables, they always cut out the important part and just show the glitter.
But still, I don't regret my time with Melinda. I just wish there could have been a less painful way to of learned those life lessons and reached this point of the journey.
Wow, thanks. I believe that you may be giving me a little bit too much credit and not that I'm being modest, you have just not the unfortunate chance to see how mean and vindictive I can be. Although when I am, most people will say that the person was deserving of the punishment. Either way, thank you for your kind words. I still am for peace and fantastic things. What's life without ambitions?
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I do not even guess at what happened in your relationship. I know that my own divorce and subsequent friendship comes with trials and road bumps that I am trying to hurdle...because he *does* mean that much to me.
I wish you only the best, Really, for all involved. It should not have to hurt every day forever.
<3,
~K
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Oh, and you know you can call me
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(stupid computer, posted before I was done commenting).
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I know I can call and chat with you more. I'm just not that good at it really. I like face to face, it tends to flow better. I don't post on here or Facebook because I don't see my daily life exciting enough to talk about and I don't want to repeat what Susan posts due to the friends we share would have to see the same things twice.
i will try to keep in touch better.
Thanks again.
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I'm glad to, and hope that it was enough for me to heal properly. I had finally had enough of being called on as a friend by the same person who showed no remorse or even tact of our past together.
I think I might start coming back out into the social light, but baby steppes. I don't need to blind myself by the light either. ;) I'm glad to know that people did actually read it though. I didn't desire any type of responses, just to know that people did read it. I figured a lot of people were waiting for such an event to occur.
Thanks again.
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I knew a tiny bit of what was going on in this whole situation but I never would have believed that it was this fucked up. Never believed that is, unless it came straight from you. I've known you for over ten years, and in all that time I'm hard pressed to name someone I know who is more honest or more giving. You definitely deserve fantastic things in life, I hope that you will find peace with all of this and find what it is you are looking for.
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But still, I don't regret my time with Melinda. I just wish there could have been a less painful way to of learned those life lessons and reached this point of the journey.
Thanks again.
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