A burning question

[chobitschii]

Assalamualaikum and hello everybody. This is Diyana from Malaysia. Lately, I've stumbled upon a few articles how do guys detect whether a girl is still a virgin or not by just looking at her. For example, bouncing breasts when running, sagging buttocks, fine lines and dark circles on the eyes and when you press a girl's heel and if it doesn't

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[hushdawg]

This is all rubbish. One's state of virginity can not be told by physical means, even the hymen can be ruptured by non-sexual means and is not accurate in determining virginity.

If a man wants to put you through some sort of test like that he will not be a merciful husband.

[chobitschii]

That article said that hymen rupture due to non-sexual means, those so-called signs won't appear.

[chobitschii]

Thank you for your opinions, guys. I really appreciate it.

When I read those articles, I was very disgusted. Those articles imply that men are perverts and judgmental. Women have different body shapes and I think those articles are discriminatory.

Sadly, men took it seriously. Not all men, but some men. My college roommate told me that she heard something like this when she was talking to an ustaz. Yes, an ustaz told her about all this as well.

I also stumbled upon articles like those in a forum. There was a debate between girls and guys. The girls questioned the validity and the boys replied with something like, "Oh, you girls seem like you can't face the facts." Not really 100% but it's somewhere along those lines.

I believe Allah is not cruel and Allah regards women special. I believe articles like those degrade and insult women.

[hushdawg]

Unfortunately a lot of ustaz have suspicious education. There are many here in the Philippines that talk out of their rears and when you press about their Islamic education it's all local sham schools with no real scholars providing instruction. It is sad to hear that Malaysia has fallen prey to this kind of idiocy as well.

[chobitschii]

I've never heard of sham schools but since some people keep proclaiming that people can decipher other people's personality and virginity really makes me wonder which school they go to or whether they're actually scholars or not. They claimed that it's Allah's gift to men. Pfftt!

To guys like those, like you said will not be a merciful husband and alhamdulillah my brothers don't believe that rubbish.

[inkedfeathers]

Asallamu 'alaikum wa rahmatulLahi wa barakatuh

None of it is true.

The closest thing to being true is the hymen thing, but even that is unreliable at all, as hymens can break from various other things, like falls or rigorous exercise, and not just sexual intercourse.

No one can tell that someone else is a virgin or not just by looking, unless they're watching the act take place.

Wa Allahu a'lam.

[styphon]

There is no medical sign for virginity. As people have said, hymens break with injury or sports. Sometimes hymens must be torn for medical reasons.

Breasts can sag from age, genetics, and weight loss.

To be even more graphic, you can't even use "tightness" as an indicator as this is more determined by genetic and environment factors more than sex.

[hushdawg]

Especially with plastic surgery targeting the female genitalia to "repair" virginity physically.

Nope, any good Muslim man knows that you judge a woman based on her character and her faith; everything else is secondary.