"Love is Blind"
I hear this statement all the time, although, it wasn't until fairly recently that I realized there can be multiple interpretations of this quote. My initial interpretation of this was that it meant if a person loves you, he or she does not care what you look like, how you dress, and other superficial things like that. He or she loves you for who you are on the inside, regardless of how you appear on the outside. This is how I used to see this quote, back when I was naive, self-conscious, and willing to believe that love conquers all.
No, love does not conquer all. Love is not all you need. Love requires a lot of work and a lot of patience, not to mention a whole lot of tears...
During my bitter stage, I saw this quote as a situation where he or she (well, really she since I was bitter) was blind to the faults of her partner, even when her partner was intentionally hurting her. Love makes her blind to the obvious. Love causes her to blame herself when they had fights, because no way could her prince charming do such a thing as manipulate the situation to make it seem like her fault or to make her feel like crap for past arguments that have nothing to do with the current situation. No way. It's all her fault.
No, it's not all my fault, but it's not all his either. I realize that now and I accept that. It's funny how I was much more confident when I was single, or was I just fooling myself? I guess it doesn't matter. What matters is that I did some self-searching and am back to being more independent and confident.
Now that I'm a little more at peace, I see that both are true and that there is a third interpretation. Love is blind in that when you are hurt or upset at the one you love, you focus so much on that and on what people tell you that you are blind to how much he or she really loves you and how much you really love him or her. I need to remember that. I also need to learn from what I said above and not let love, that oh-so-wonderful emotion, blind me from when my partner is wrong. Love is a double-edged sword and I can see now that there really is a fine line between love and hate, but I would still rather have love complicate my life than to live simply without it.
No, love does not conquer all. Love is not all you need. Love requires a lot of work and a lot of patience, not to mention a whole lot of tears...
During my bitter stage, I saw this quote as a situation where he or she (well, really she since I was bitter) was blind to the faults of her partner, even when her partner was intentionally hurting her. Love makes her blind to the obvious. Love causes her to blame herself when they had fights, because no way could her prince charming do such a thing as manipulate the situation to make it seem like her fault or to make her feel like crap for past arguments that have nothing to do with the current situation. No way. It's all her fault.
No, it's not all my fault, but it's not all his either. I realize that now and I accept that. It's funny how I was much more confident when I was single, or was I just fooling myself? I guess it doesn't matter. What matters is that I did some self-searching and am back to being more independent and confident.
Now that I'm a little more at peace, I see that both are true and that there is a third interpretation. Love is blind in that when you are hurt or upset at the one you love, you focus so much on that and on what people tell you that you are blind to how much he or she really loves you and how much you really love him or her. I need to remember that. I also need to learn from what I said above and not let love, that oh-so-wonderful emotion, blind me from when my partner is wrong. Love is a double-edged sword and I can see now that there really is a fine line between love and hate, but I would still rather have love complicate my life than to live simply without it.