Actively doing nothing

[my_solipsism]

I cannot remember the last time I was actually enraged prior to this weekend, so it's novel and uncomfortable at the same time

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[youthculture]

i am afraid for what may happen with this, and pretty much for all the same reasons.

i am glad to hear tab's okay though. been in my head all weekend.

[my_solipsism]

Thanks, K. He's not okay, but he will get through.

With luck this will be handled with class on both sides. Barring that, hopefully things will at least resolve quickly.

[sistahraven]

There definitely are already some significant ripples. I'm viewing them right now from a neutral stance - there are consequences to actions, and it's understandable that right now, there are some significant consequences to pretty significant actions. I think all of us were caught off guard by that particular line being crossed, even despite knowing the crosser's skill at crossing lines. I will say my levels of trust with that person have been adjusted.

Doing nothing is monumentally difficult. I think some time passing might make it easier to see where action might be helpful, and where it will not be helpful. I think the action I will be taking in the meantime is just making sure Tab feels supported. I have been concerned about him since it all happened.

[my_solipsism]

Thanks lady. He would probably love a FB message or email if you have it in you - he is not doing well with all of this.

I am struggling to let go of my anger so I can actually help him and not instigate more emotion from him, but if nothing else we will just ride it out until we are both able to be calm.

Oddly, I am very proud of him through all of this. He can have so much magnanimity in the toughest of times, and really sticks to his values without wavering at all. I just wish it hurt him less.

This weekend of all weekends of the year...

[sistahraven]

I sent him a FB message.

I'm proud of the both of you right now. You're doing what you can to help him, while acknowledging the process of letting the anger slide away is difficult, and he did his best to stay calm through the conflict, and calm down before attempting to resolve it.

This happening on this particular weekend was no good.

[my_solipsism]

Thank you so much for your thoughts - they have been passed along. Tab isn't able to talk with people on the phone right now, but hopefully that will improve as the week goes on and more time helps remove the immediacy of what he is feeling.