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myaxe

Death & Rebirth

Jun 22, 2004 10:10

In general, I am the worst friend on the planet. I have issues with closeness and problems with seeming aloof. I lose myself in my own problems and don't write or contact or care as much as I should. But I have to say that, every time someone says it's not personal, it only solidifies that it is personal.Personally, I am a destroyer. Like Shiva, I ( Read more... )

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christianneil June 22 2004, 09:27:09 UTC

I've seen numerous posts with people announcing friend cuts, and I no longer comment telling them I want to stay. It is a shameless ploy for attention and comments, and if I have to prove to someone that I read their posts every few weeks, it's not worth it.

I have even seen people go so far as to use one of those tools to see who has added and removed them, and they will flame someone for unfriending them. They need to get a life.

Agree! myaxe June 22 2004, 11:04:35 UTC

I agree with you. I had considered writing and asking to be kept on as she was a regularly sunny beam in my friends list, but I figured - what the heck? If she feels so inclined, it is her friends list, right?

I also agree with the flaming thing being a waste - that is just plain silly! Like I said, it is there Live Journal experience and they should add/drop whomever they want to! Besides, if you are being dropped from a list, chances are they mean about as much to you as you do to them!

~H

immortalbob June 22 2004, 09:34:02 UTC

I feel you are a very good poster for me to have on my friends list, you post genuine posts. not just daily ramblings about what went on. You post your feelings.

Well ... myaxe June 22 2004, 11:07:29 UTC

Thanks! I like your posts as well - they usually make me laugh!

(I hope that didn't come out wrong!)

~H

Re: Well ... immortalbob June 22 2004, 11:37:48 UTC

heh i am glad i give you a chuckle now and then :) btw your lj pic is hot :D

Re: Well ... myaxe June 22 2004, 12:51:29 UTC

Again, thanks!

I suppose most married gals would be slightly offended by such a remark, but I, myself, personally am always glad to hear such things!

(However, I'm not sure if you noticed, but it is an art pic. It has been modified. What I mean to say is that I'm not nearly so stylized or pasty in real life :)

Thanks again, though!

~H

Thread 5

ex_orgiastic395 June 22 2004, 13:55:38 UTC

Oh, the friends-cut is such a tough thing. I used to build up to 50 or 60 and then just pick up and move to other journals. Lately I've become braver about it...but I usually don't make a big announcement before or after, I just take them off quietly, and I'm not sure if that's better or worse.

And with me it's never a personal thing as in if I really don't like someone online, which is very rare, there would be a clear-cut reason, and they'd probably know it; like you said, it probably would just be that I'd feel like we didn't have anything in common, and I just don't have anything to say to their posts, and that's not really personal...

Sure it's personal myaxe June 22 2004, 14:04:40 UTC

It's a personal decision. Itis your personal space. To me that is personally yours - of your person.

I don't know, it just always annoyed me when people would say it's nothing personal when that is all there is in a BLOG, personal space where you put personal thoughts personally, ya' know :)

~H

Re: Sure it's personal ex_orgiastic395 June 22 2004, 14:14:44 UTC

well...i mean yeah, it's that person's personal decision. i meant that it's not necessarily a personal attack on the person's character. that's all. :)

i used to get my feelings hurt when people removed me, i know...now i'd just be hurt if someone i considered a livejournal friend removed me...but yeah. take it with a grain of salt is all i can say...sorry though...that sucks. and i hate it when they say things like "weeded out."

moxiebramble June 22 2004, 14:43:37 UTC

The first time I read that kind of post on a friend's page (the post to stay on the list sort of kind), I jumped through the hoop. Now however, I think they're awful, and I'll almost never comment to ask to stay.

As for you, quantity doesn't always equal quality. I like comments (we all do, that's why we're here) but they aren't so important that I keep track of who comments and who doesn't. Your posts are genuine and I'd never think of taking you off of my list.

myaxe June 22 2004, 18:38:10 UTC

I agree. Comments are great, but I try to write the journal for me (which is probably why I only post every now and then :)

~H

kdm23 June 23 2004, 08:42:07 UTC

I love the interactive nature of journals, and always try to respond to any comments people leave me. I try to comment on my friends' entries as well, if I've got something to say; sometimes, though, like with Jay, I'll often just read the posts. I know that many people write only for themselves (or at least claim to), but I have no problem admitting that the interactive nature of LJ, and the intimacy it creates, is the feature that keeps me addicted. I've actually made no less than 10 real-life friendships (as in, we've met and hung out) from LJ, and it's a source of joy ( ... )