Comments | mymusicaljesus: but I'm starving and freezing in my measly old bed!

mymusicaljesus

but I'm starving and freezing in my measly old bed!

Apr 16, 2007 23:03

it's really hard to have someone say to you, "EVERYONE has hardships, EVERYONE has a parent that dies, WE ALL HAVE FUCKED UP SHIT HAPPEN TO US" and NOT have it hurt like hell. No one knows what i've been through these past 6 months, so please don't act like it's OK to say something like that to me ( Read more... )

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creativetypes April 17 2007, 06:32:25 UTC

everyone is always going to try to live your life for you. i dont think people always realize that it is OKAY that they don't understand. as friends and family, we want to seek that connection that says "i know what you're going through," even when we don't. maybe the people around you don't understand how much it hurts you when they try to act as if they get it. i've straight-up told people when they are being insensitive or when they don't know what i'm going though. i'm sorry that someone said that to you, that sounds very belittling.

you are very lucky to have a support system around you and i hope that you feel genuinely happy in the future. therapy has always been one of the most helpful things for me. when you have a good therapist, its a really good outlet. i'm actually looking for a new one right now.

/rambling

sarahlum April 17 2007, 07:58:58 UTC

sometimes you just dont want help. but its hard for the people who want to help too cause they want to see you better, you know. but no one knows how you feel. im sorry.

cat_bread April 17 2007, 17:12:41 UTC

i can't believe someone said that to you. makes my heart hurt.

I know this is an older entry, and we're not LJ friends, but... pullteeth August 23 2007, 06:14:57 UTC

I know what you mean by saying it's hard to feel normal, and feeling more dead inside every day.My mom passed away 22 days ago and it's sometimes hard to even look at my younger brothers,because I see so much of her, in them and I feel guilty that I was able to spend 19 wonderous years with her,and my youngest brother only got 8.
Someone who has the guts to say that, is a heartless alien. I wouldn't even call them a human. If someone said that to me, I don't know what I would do.
I've gone through a lot in the past 22 days than I seem to have in my whole life. I'm still not into my "regular" daily regiment and it sucks, because I've had a lot of torment in my brain,and my dad is signing us up for counseling. Does going to a psychologist help you at all?

Re: I know this is an older entry, and we're not LJ friends, but... mymusicaljesus August 23 2007, 07:26:08 UTC

awww...i'm really really sorry. I just went to your lj and read about your mom. you have some beautiful photographs of her.

for me, my life feels completely different. I think i've gone through every emotion these past 10 months and not all have been good. I've learned a lot about myself as well as others.
I think it's good that you're getting counseling, as I wish i had started seeing my doctor earlier. One big thing i've learned is this, NO ONE KNOWS WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. It's that simple and at times that concept is going to fucking suck. It's hard for others to know how you feel and they'll never know unless you say something. It's kind of like the pink elephant in the room and they don't know if you want to talk about it or if this is something you want to keep to yourself. and it's OK to not talk about it, if that's what you really want. Don't force yourself to deal with this issue a certain way, but also don't hide from it.

again, i'm sorry you lost your mom. you and your family are in my prayers.

stay strong.