I would think explaining death would be the first thing, and then maybe explaining how sometimes people do bad things...? I don't know...this is a tough one. Have you tried searching online?
I'm actually pretty okay with how I'm handling Grant with it, but he's also no stranger to death with so many in out family during his life. But I do wonder what people think about it. My attitude is that we all will die, but we continue to do what we love and love others because that's what makes living sooo good.
When Anastasia deSousa was killed in Dawson College's shooting last September, my kids' school went through an "invader survival" drill. I just about cried when that note came home, but that's what has to happen, I guess. I answered my 8-year-old daughter's questions sort of like this:
We can't stop all the bad things from happening. CAN learn from them, and make sure those bad things don't happen again... but there's always a new way for something bad to happen, and people can forget what they were supposed to learn, if it happened a long time ago. So we have to make sure we remember, and practise sometimes. And that's why it's all over the news, and why you guys have to hide under your desks when the emergency announcement comes on.It helped her a little that I didn't say "bad people", and it kind of turned into a really confused meander through why we have Remembrance Day, and why her teachers are teaching "media literacy" and "video game reality checks" in Grade 3
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i think that the gunman had a LOT of rage inside him, for whatever reason, and was so concerned about himself, and such a narcissist, that he had to inflict that rage on others, to prove to himself that he had power.
he was angry.
he was a self-centered jerk.
he hurt other people to make himself happy.
to be honest, i wouldn't care if he were only hurting himself. but because he was a selfish bastard (which is unfair to his mother, really) with some sort of ego complex, he wanted to hurt others too.
Also a good time to talk about how important it is to have friends, because they can help when our brains go wonky from being sick and help us realise what's real and what isn't.
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Good answer btw, and am adding it to my arsenal for difficult questions
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We can't stop all the bad things from happening. CAN learn from them, and make sure those bad things don't happen again... but there's always a new way for something bad to happen, and people can forget what they were supposed to learn, if it happened a long time ago. So we have to make sure we remember, and practise sometimes. And that's why it's all over the news, and why you guys have to hide under your desks when the emergency announcement comes on.It helped her a little that I didn't say "bad people", and it kind of turned into a really confused meander through why we have Remembrance Day, and why her teachers are teaching "media literacy" and "video game reality checks" in Grade 3 ( ... )
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he was angry.
he was a self-centered jerk.
he hurt other people to make himself happy.
to be honest, i wouldn't care if he were only hurting himself. but because he was a selfish bastard (which is unfair to his mother, really) with some sort of ego complex, he wanted to hurt others too.
um... stick with anger?
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Also a good time to talk about how important it is to have friends, because they can help when our brains go wonky from being sick and help us realise what's real and what isn't.
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