if it was me and it was a long term relationship and i found out after the fact...after we already broke up, yes i would confront him. not to cause drama or a confrontation, per say... but i'd call him up and let him know that news had finally gotten to me and that i KNOW about it and am hurt/disappointed that he did that while we were together. although we're already apart, at least he'll know that i found out, rather than thinking all along that he fooled me... plus, this will deter any future prospects of trying to get back with me (if he ever tried to) since he knows that i KNOW and wouldn't think twice to going back with him. i would yell or cause drama out of it... but i'd still call to tell him i knew... if that wasn't the reason why we had broken up in the first place.
I understand... now that you mention it, I'd want to bring it up to... just to let the ass know he can't have me fooled... but I think ultimately, I'd still leave it alone. Asking him about him, having him defend himself, me pressing the fact that I KNOW he had... it would just take too much time. But that's just me.
Last I remember, an ex told me himself that he'd cheated (after four months of separation) and I honestly didn't care. I'm sure if I still had feelings for him, I would've been hurt.
oops...what i meant was I WOULD NOT cause drama or yell at him...hehe... sorry, i must have forgotten to write NOT and it changed the whole meaning of the sentence! Lol. but i can see why you wouldn't say anything...
got your IM/text over the wknd. i was in vegas. hope all is well with you too, baby girl.
re: question @ hand -- i didn't confront him. [been there] i feel the same way as you do - why do it? it's a waste of time. he's an EX and there's a reason why. why travel down that fruitless road? it's a waste of time. i didn't want to open a can of shit that may/may not hurt or conjure up feelings that would only prove to be futile.
regarding your question, i have a question for you. what if you got back together with your ex and then found out he cheated the first time around? in other words, are mistakes made during the first time around to be held accountable the second time around?
I don't care to waste time on someone who didn't care enough to begin with, that lack of consideration and character leading them to do something as horrible as cheating.
I don't tolerate cheating. Second chances? What, people can change? No. No second chances. If the person cared so much the first time around, they wouldn't have cheated. Besides, anyone who cheats doesn't have their head screwed on tight enough. They should work on that first before trying to date me.
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if it was me and it was a long term relationship and i found out after the fact...after we already broke up, yes i would confront him. not to cause drama or a confrontation, per say... but i'd call him up and let him know that news had finally gotten to me and that i KNOW about it and am hurt/disappointed that he did that while we were together. although we're already apart, at least he'll know that i found out, rather than thinking all along that he fooled me... plus, this will deter any future prospects of trying to get back with me (if he ever tried to) since he knows that i KNOW and wouldn't think twice to going back with him. i would yell or cause drama out of it... but i'd still call to tell him i knew... if that wasn't the reason why we had broken up in the first place.
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Last I remember, an ex told me himself that he'd cheated (after four months of separation) and I honestly didn't care. I'm sure if I still had feelings for him, I would've been hurt.
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i didn't confront him. [been there] i feel the same way as you do - why do it? it's a waste of time. he's an EX and there's a reason why. why travel down that fruitless road? it's a waste of time. i didn't want to open a can of shit that may/may not hurt or conjure up feelings that would only prove to be futile.
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Keep in touch, Ate. I miss ya. :)
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regarding your question, i have a question for you. what if you got back together with your ex and then found out he cheated the first time around? in other words, are mistakes made during the first time around to be held accountable the second time around?
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I don't care to waste time on someone who didn't care enough to begin with, that lack of consideration and character leading them to do something as horrible as cheating.
I don't tolerate cheating. Second chances? What, people can change? No. No second chances. If the person cared so much the first time around, they wouldn't have cheated. Besides, anyone who cheats doesn't have their head screwed on tight enough. They should work on that first before trying to date me.
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