Sad News About Tiffany

[narniarose]

Tiffany came home yesterday, but unfortunately left again.  Literally within 5 minutes of my going to get her, she was belligerent and demanding.  No apology, no reasoning, just ....  well, a bi-polar, damaged teenager.  Took her to the therapist.  Tried tough love.  Her birth brother called yesterday because she had called him.  He told me that

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[widowspeak]

Random question from my hubby, the Psyche degree holder: Is she medicated for her bi-polar disorder? If so, is she off her meds? Or have they tried adjusting her meds? (I know from experience that a LOT of bi-polar folks randomly stop taking their meds, thus the inquiry.)

I'm so sorry that she's done this to you again, hon. I'll still keep my eyes peeled until we leave town on Saturday. *hugs* My thoughts are with you.

[dr_zrfq]

I was wondering much the same thing, which is why I suspect Tiffany has started to thrash (here, moving back and forth rapidly and uncontrollably between states of mind, accomplishing nothing).

[shonao]

from the sounds of things, she is indeed off her meds. But from experience with a teenage friend in HS, teens are less likely to take their meds than adults...the invincibility-teen factor along with a regular bi-polar's belief that they are fine when on their meds, then stop taking them...it's all a whirlpool....

[narniarose]

I suspected she had stopped taking her meds and she confirmed it last night. I'm posting about all that in a minute. Thank you.

[brighidh]

*hugs* I also agree with the advice to pull back and take care of yourself more than chasing after her. A chase can end in catching her, but what then -- another window for her to crawl out of. I know the bipolar stuff is in play, but eventually she has to come to her own terms and place of peace...and I feel she'll come back then. *HUGS*

[narniarose]

Thank you- I'm really trying to keep myself OK in all this. The fact that she's a minor is what makes it so hard. I can only pull back so far, you know? Thanks for the hugs.

[brighidh]

I had custody of my sister when she was 17....and she started behaving like a .... 17 yr old who had way too much freedom and license. Skipping class, seeing a college student who was just after a green card, various other really dumb things. Nights I wouldn't know where she was. I finally had enough and took all her possessions to her bf's house, met with the principals at her school to force her into an attendance contract -- and later sat in front of the movie "The Color Purple" bawling my eyes out thinking I'd lost my sister. She eventually came to her senses, but it took some time -- close on a year.

That was 15 years ago... Not the same thing as you're going through, but the agonies ring familiar a bit.

[narniarose]

Thank you for sharing that. It does remind me that "this too shall pass." What a wonderful sister you are! I hope she does see that by now.

Re: Sympathies, Prayers and Hugs from NYC

[narniarose]

You are so kind! I'm so glad you have found happiness.

[dr_zrfq]

It sounds as though Tiffany is going through the mental and emotional equivalent of what us old-school computer types call "thrashing".

I continue to send prayers and good thoughts and healing vibes in her direction and in yours. I wish there were more I could do.

*****HUGSHUGSHUGS*****

[narniarose]

Thank you, Evan. It was nice to meet you in person. Thanks for the hugs!

[orlacarey]

Hugs. I'm hoping for the best and keeping you in my thoughts...

[narniarose]

Thank you.