Hard to say if moving in is a bad move for the relationship. But I think that people should live with each other before they get married. Imagine marrying someone and moving in after, only to realize that you can't stand the way they live. By then, it's too late!
If it makes or breaks the relationship all depends on whether you guys can coexist under one roof. Sometimes couples move in together cause it's the next big step in their relationship, only to end up breaking up. But things like that happen because they're meant to happen. If you guys can't stand living with each other, then maybe it's really not meant to be.
On the other hand, if living together really works out well, then that'll make your relationship.
Good luck with the moving, whatever you guys decide to do!!
If you are already pissed at him for the small things you type about on this LJ. It will get worse once you move in together cuz you will see him all the time and there's no real place for you guys to go to get away from each other. Just something to think about.
i definitely agree. i know your relationship is none of my business but from reading what you rwite on your livejournal, it seems like you do get upset a lot over things he does or how he treats you. i think if you lived together you'd have more expectations of him being around you more often and if he's out a lot .. with his friends a lot.. especially late at night.. it's gonna bother you even more because you'll be at home literally waiting for him to come home, too. you write a lot about all the stuff you do for him (rides, etc) and how he doesnt show appreciation for all you do.. what more if you guys are living together?
maybe it could work out though. you never know. thats just my opinion based on what you've written about your relationship with him..
From personal experience, I loved it. If you dont mind seeing each other 24/7, then you should do it. We moved in after 6 months, and everyone thought we were nuts, but it worked out great. If you're not too worried about sharing everything, picking up after them [cuz it happens], and you can let little things go, then go for it. Just make sure and establish boundaries from the beginning..
I think living with your bf before actually getting married truly shows you if you're made for each other or not. If you cant stand living with them without the ring, than what makes you think you could w/ it on? I think it would be an eye opening experience and would truly show you whether Martel, or any guy for that matter, is worth the time invested.
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If it makes or breaks the relationship all depends on whether you guys can coexist under one roof. Sometimes couples move in together cause it's the next big step in their relationship, only to end up breaking up. But things like that happen because they're meant to happen. If you guys can't stand living with each other, then maybe it's really not meant to be.
On the other hand, if living together really works out well, then that'll make your relationship.
Good luck with the moving, whatever you guys decide to do!!
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maybe it could work out though. you never know. thats just my opinion based on what you've written about your relationship with him..
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Just make sure and establish boundaries from the beginning..
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