holidays without...

[wonder_allie]

Do you ever get this feeling that even though you have friends that you are totally missing out? Tomorrow will be the first real holiday without Ted. Its weird to think that he's already in July 4th. And then on top of that... my family is all together on the other side of the country and I am missing out

Comments

[deza]

I grew up doing this. As a kid, it's a lot easier than you'd think because you find you can make family anywhere. It's been over 30 years since my dad retired; last fall, my mom had a visit from a couple that were among their closest friends when he was in.

Yes, it is difficult. It's the sacrifice we make for our spouses and our country. I hope you can find some chosen family in the squadron to help make the holiday a bit more special--after all, July 4 is about ALL of us who support our country in any way.

[lightonthesill]

One thing that helped me in the past was reminding myself it is okay to have fun. Not only okay but better if I do. (I don't mean pressuring oneself into it) Just that that's my job...to carry on, fulfilling myself and my family - which includes finding new ways to connect and have fun. And yes, creating chosen family to bond with along the way.

Blessings to you and yours.

[ladymalen]

I've haven't had to cross that bridge yet. My hubby was on extended LIMDU when we met and even though he's been fit for full duty for over a year, we're still awaiting orders (he has to cross-rate surface for a year or two to prove to the UMO here his knee is 100% again), so we actually are on almost the exact same work schedule.

But I second the letting yourself see it is okay to have fun, it is okay to enjoy yourself. I doubt any of our husbands want us miserable and pining away while they're gone.

Perhaps take a moment tomorrow and write your husband a letter and DON'T send it. Save it til he gets home. And just write about whatever--whatever happened that day, how proud you are of him, what the kidlet did, but make it happy, not sad. Remember a marriage is stronger for both people being strong on their own. Combine both of those strengths and you're unstoppable!

[seizetheday]

When it comes to family, yeah I do feel like I'm missing out on things. I havent seen my family in almost a year because my husband and I are living overseas. I just remind myself that its a part of life for most people and as you grow older, you can move away and not even be around family even if you arent military affiliated. It is hard though.

[2natraps]

It is really weird, I agree.

Just gotta try and enjoy it the best you can and enjoy those brownies!

Thank you to your husband for his service, and thank you for your sacrifice, too.