Easier said than done

[nayish]

You know... It's funny, I make a big stink about how people should back up their words with actions. If you say you love someone, show it. If you say you really want to better your life, go out and try to. Etc, etc, etc

Comments

[fairyhead]

I think you've really hit on a good point. I'm going to use showing love as an example. I think there are a bunch of variables going on. Firstly, it might be hard to show love for someone - maybe they fear rejection or judgment. Other times, it could be that that person is busting ass to show love, but it's not in the way the loved one wants or expects. I find this a lot. I really struggle to try and see how it is that my friends show love because it's often different from what I'd like and the same goes on for them. Ultimately, open communication and the ability to try and empathize with the loved one means that it's easier to close that gap.

[nayish]

Definitely. Communication is always the major player in any kind of relationship ranging from professional, to romantic, and anything inbetween. I think that your actions are a form of communication also, and due to some problems with the man I've really been thinking about these sorts of things lately. One question, I don't think anyone can answer, is what causes communication to break down in a relationship? Especially one that had no problems UNTIL the communication started to break down? Is it due to the 2 people getting comfortable, feeling they don't have to try as hard anymore - and so rather than "doing the right thing" they instead do whatever may have come "naturally" before