Please do not hate me?

Jan 13, 2009 18:35

Mmmkay, so real talk. And please don't hate me, I come in peace with a question that PLAGUES me.

Maybe it's just me, but why is it that so many hetero Alt-Black guys are not attracted to Alt-Black girls, at least initially, anyway?

I don't know about you, ladies but if I were to encounter a man like this in my daily travels:

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truffel_oil January 14 2009, 00:36:01 UTC
dudes like confidence and by what you are saying you seem to lack that. just be confident and they will swoon if now fuck them you are too good for them etc.

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truffel_oil January 14 2009, 00:36:20 UTC
now=not.

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sortainsane January 14 2009, 18:44:01 UTC
you're right, confidence is a magnet to a major degree

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grownupnai January 14 2009, 00:44:20 UTC
I'm glad I'm not just attracted to guys if that's truly the case. I don't know that this has been my experience as a Queer. I've made out with some pretty cute "art school" ex punk type black and brown boys. But my last two partners who were both of African decent were women. There of tons of hot weirdos of color out there. Be patient and you'll find what you're looking for.

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sortainsane January 14 2009, 18:33:58 UTC
i think women, much of the time, are definitely more keen to beauty that is actually different as opposed to just what society has coined "acceptably exotic" (asians, certain hispanics). this is a big generalization, i know, but it makes sense to me as i can see how incredibly beautiful some of my girl friends are and only years later will guys start to catch on.

i'm just going to sit tight and do me. i see my fair share of action from//been in relationships with other races but jeez it would be really nice to date someone of the same race for once! haha

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grownupnai January 15 2009, 13:51:50 UTC
Yeah, I stopped dating white people because I felt "exotic" to them. Like their own personal piece of Africa, and dating me made them some how "not-racist" and more liberal. Kinda like a transracially(transnationally) adopted baby or a white person with dread locks with a white baby wrapped in Guatemalan cloth. I don't know if I'm getting my point across the way I want to. Yeah, being in interracial relationships specifically black/white is hella challenging. I'm not saying I wouldn't do it again completely but would prefer not to.

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babystinkbreath January 14 2009, 00:57:01 UTC
i although i totally want (and do!) affirm the above comments, i also have to tell you that you are not alone in this -- my friend and i have oft discussed this. which is not to say we haven't found examples that prove certain generalizations wrong, but when you're in certain majority-white populations, alt-black dudes seem to be looking everywhere but at us. but if they're about making exceptions like that, you don't want them anyway.

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sortainsane January 14 2009, 18:12:15 UTC
mmhmmm, it just makes me wonder how they regard themselves, you know? but it is so very true that the ones who are all about making exceptions aren't worth it till they do a little more growing up.

it's funny though, because when you do find the example that proves this stereotype wrong--they tend to be A LOT more attractive//better at life in general anyway than they guys who are so exclusive. =-P

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reverberates January 14 2009, 03:21:26 UTC
i think it's cus they like white girls/azn girls/ya know light with straight hair

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randomneses January 14 2009, 03:47:53 UTC
I love this post.

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