Thanks, I'm sorry that I did that. It was upset, but it was still unfair. I have to fight this knee-jerk reaction and try to put things in perspective. It's tough.
Then again you know me, I'm constantly afraid that I'm the "Nice Guy". I try to be genuinely nice to people. Although I would like to be treated well myself, friendship is not a zero-sum-game.
That last sentence makes me wince everything I hear something like that. I know you and many of my friends would jump me for even thinking this, but I honestly don't feel like I have qualities like confidence, self-determination, or strength of character. I find myself to be kind of a sniveling, opportunistic, morally relativistic individual, and I know how unattractive that is. But I can't seem to separate these qualities away from my self identity. I'm working on finding ways to cope with these feelings, but I think this will definitely be the hardest part to overcome.
I am one of those women who's naturally suspicious of men who hit on her, but I would say that a guy simply striking up a conversation is not creepy, even if it's not always welcome (sometimes I just want to read my book, dangit
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Then again you know me, I'm constantly afraid that I'm the "Nice Guy". I try to be genuinely nice to people. Although I would like to be treated well myself, friendship is not a zero-sum-game.
That last sentence makes me wince everything I hear something like that. I know you and many of my friends would jump me for even thinking this, but I honestly don't feel like I have qualities like confidence, self-determination, or strength of character. I find myself to be kind of a sniveling, opportunistic, morally relativistic individual, and I know how unattractive that is. But I can't seem to separate these qualities away from my self identity. I'm working on finding ways to cope with these feelings, but I think this will definitely be the hardest part to overcome.
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