I have very similar self-criticizing habits as you and even though I have not found a way to drown out the self-loathing that doesn't involve self-harm, I sometimes find that a self-esteem boost [no matter how temporary] helps slightly.
Now that you've told me all of these terrible things about you [can you hear my sarcasm?], I'm supposed to dislike you more, right? Wrong. You are very much like me simply because I focus on the negatives about me as you seem to do as well.
Perhaps find something about yourself [whether it be a physical aspect or something personality oriented] that you don't loathe and go from there... ?
well..you and i have discussed how we both do this to ourselves constantly ... when i see you i see a beautiful, intelligent, loving/lovable person...you have always been a great friend...and besides, we're going to be the ultimate bachelorettes..i can't start the geriatric nudist colony without you...*loves*
:::cries::: i don't think any of those things about you... i, i, wish i could say something helpful.. but i'm left feeling sad because i know and understand this emotion - this criticism - but you have to know that that is a voice in your head - and she doesn't want you to become a better person - she wants you to be just the way you hate yourself - she dances in your pain - you must stand up to her and tell her to shutup - that she , the "it" that tells you these things - is the ugly horrible "thing" - but that you are everything but!
i think you are amazing and beautiful and a wonderful friend and sister - i believe you are also human - and i do not expect you to be perfect - if you were perfect - then i would most certainly lose interest because you would fail to be a person at all. "this too will pass" - i love you dear sister.
things will start to become better in your head one day.
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Now that you've told me all of these terrible things about you [can you hear my sarcasm?], I'm supposed to dislike you more, right? Wrong. You are very much like me simply because I focus on the negatives about me as you seem to do as well.
Perhaps find something about yourself [whether it be a physical aspect or something personality oriented] that you don't loathe and go from there... ?
Stay strong.
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i think you are amazing and beautiful and a wonderful friend and sister - i believe you are also human - and i do not expect you to be perfect - if you were perfect - then i would most certainly lose interest because you would fail to be a person at all. "this too will pass" - i love you dear sister.
things will start to become better in your head one day.
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