breakthrough

[obsesscompulse]

i am having a major problem right now, and would very much appreciate any support, comfort, opinions or advice anyone has

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[kharma_creature]

are you in an open relationship? you kept saying "them" - as in talking about your sex life and who you're not being intimate with and what not...

i honestly think you are doing the best thing you can for yourself... and i feel that "they" are being seriously insensitive to your needs - and ARE just looking out for themselves.. it is important, however to have intimacy with your partner/s... it IS part of the relationship.. love is more important, yes.. but intimacy goes along with love..

perhaps you can make a plan for sexual activity for once you are feeling better.. you have to give to get - and get to give .. so keep that in mind... but they also need to be sensitive to you and especially your side affects right not.. comming off medication is no joke - and they need to respect that..

i hope that helps at least some.. goodluck darling.. and if you want to chat sometime - i'm on aim = kharma creature

you're doing a good job.. focus on yourself and your health.. you're worth it!

[obsesscompulse]

my partner is genderqueer and so i don't use either the male or female pronoun, but instead say "they". it works better than "him" or "her" in their situation. and we are monogamous.

thankyou... i know they are being insensitive. but at the same time i know they are trying, and that this is simply beyond their experiences. so i try to be compassionate, but i am in tears so often by words they say, i just don't know what to do at this point.

we have discussed, in more positive moments, about how great the sex will be once i'm finally feeling better... but they refuse to hear it anymore; they think we may never have sex again and like to dwell in that. so i'm stuck.

thankyou for your words and wisdom. i'm going to keep on going, no matter the outcome. if i lose korbin through this, than, i suppose i have to look it in the way that i am better off without them.

[kharma_creature]

"genderqueer" really confuses me... i feel that you are female.. is your other is.. male/female - how does that really work anyway?

did you satisfy him/her before? i'm sorry to bring up painful questions.. (if it is painful)

loss is excruciatingly painful.. but you are right - sometimes it is for the best.. and when we are in the middle of our pain - it's the hardest thing for us to see.. we fight so hard agains't it.. (speaks from experience)..

i wish you the best.*again*

[obsesscompulse]

genderqueer is a word we use instead of transgender... which means a person does not specifically identify as either male or female... since our society only gives us two gender options, boy or else girl, there is a growing movement of people who refuse to be categorized as either. and others who identify as one category that their genetalia is not a part of. my partner is female-bodied, as am i, and just as of late they have been fully exploring their gender. they bind back their breasts in public and generally look more (socially) like a male. they are open about their gender identity... some transgender/genderqueer folks are not, which is called "passing". these are people who defintiely look like one gender, but in reality their parts may not "match up". testosterone or estrogen can help. this is a marvelous link if you are interested to learn more: http://cydathria.com/cgi-bin/SurveyShow.pl?script=gat&page=/ms_donna/ ( ... )