Love, Sacrifice, and Loss

[neva_ivan]

V-Day approaching, some thoughts

Comments

[thenanda]

Thank you for that.

[neva_ivan]

I'm glad you liked it. I realized it's a bit imperfect though. I don't believe that people are less for being single or anything--I was just for a moment concentrating on romantic love. Of course other types of love are important too, love for a good friend, love for family, plain old generous love for others, and as rubyg points out, love for yourself is vital too!

[rubyg]

Wow, thats all really powerful. I think its amazing how some people 'turn to love' to get them through hard times, and when it does make their lives better it kind of shows how lovely it is. Many people think of 'love' as being with a partner, spouse, fiancee, boyfriend etc, or of course being with family and close friends. But love for yourself seems to often be forgotten. If you don't love yourself then I'm sure people wouldn't get through so much in their lives as it gives you confidence, makes you get out and work and can also get you through hard times if you have no one else to help you.

[neva_ivan]

Oooh, you're right this is so important. You can't really honestly love someone else if you don't believe you are worthy of love yourself. I do struggle with that part--like most of us do I guess!

I was really moved by the slave stories though--it was like these people lost absolutely everything, and if I imagine it, I think I would just give up. But love kept them going.

Though, I suppose it goes without saying that if you don't believe in yourself at least somewhat, then you won't be able to believe in others.

[schadeneus]

Hey, I posted at Advice Column and I'd just like to thank you for your graciousness to comment and all the wise input in it... what you said really hit then nail. God's wisdom radiates from you, sister. :) It only went on for a few months, I've never officially got together with him and I'm so thankful to God for that.. but I'm the sort of person who upon fancying someone, I only do fancy that particular someone and love to the deepest. Not very good I suppose, but for marriage that would be great I guess. :)

I've never really discovered that it's absence that validates all that fantasizing! So it just means that I had been in love with an Ideal, not the person! Wow that really sets me free. Thanks again.. you made my day.. my..evening. :)

Thanks so much again, and God bless you muchly <3

[neva_ivan]

Thanks. We all deserve someone who cares for us the way we care for them, and nobody should have to settle for someone who makes them feel bad all of the time. Thanks for all your compliments!

[schadeneus]

<3you deserve them! :) friends? :)

[neva_ivan]

Sure, I just hope you won't be shocked by some of my entries. Warning: I am very, very liberal and have been on a bender of some political posts lately. So as long as that doesn't offend you!!