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"Anyone can give up, it's the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that's true strength."
this was emailed to me by rainingstairs. how true.,.,.
I think about all the time I've said to you all and others, "you are so strong," and as I think about my words and who and why I said them, I realize it was always said to those who when in the midst of catastrophe keep themselves together, and I say to them they are strong not because they are existing during this, but because I see them still standing, still together, still stiching up fraying seems, when may it be I or anouther in their shoes would just crumble because it would be understood and ok due to the atrosity of the situation. And when they tell me "no, I am not strong." or "no I am not because I am a mess" they only don't realize their stregnth because they do not see their situation as being warranted of crumbling, due to their own human nature to make where they are seem lighter, for if they were to admit to themselves the magnitude of their surroundings it would only be more depressing. we all make light of a situation to make ourselves feel better, and we end up believing it, and by believing it, it makes us feel as if the new lessered situation should be handled better because it is *not* *that* bad.
I think about all the people I, personally, see as being weak; and I notice it is those who did not pull through, by what ever means, and not fall apart when stuck in a hard place. Sure, it is understandable to crumble because their situation is so hard, but with the understanding its ok to crumble and taking that pass and crumbling rather than doing what ever necessary to stay together is taking the easy way out. If I look at all the people I veiw as strong, they were never those who took the easy way out crumbled and then quit just because it was hard. This quote makes me appreciate, truely, the stregnth people who stay alive and do not crumble have. Maybe because I feel that I could not do what they are doing and I would crumble; or perhaps, it is due to the fact that so many have crumbled when put in the same spot and that person i admire for their stregnth is overcomming odds that others could not.
Why is it easier to notice and except stregnth in others and not yourself. You never deny the stregnth you see in anouther when you see it, yet if you see it in yourself you deny such thoughts and dismiss them. Why is that?
I wonder if a person veiws stregnth with a harder to achieve mentality depending on the type of harsh times they have incountered personally in their life. Would a person who experienced fairly easy hard times see stregnth in a person who faces fairly easy obsticals compared to one who faced harder times? would their perception be different due to the severity they have overcome, or is overcomming anything warrented as stregnth because others might have not been able to overcome such a situation and because others have fallen apart they expect you too follow suit and when you don't its like woah you didnt crumble like all the others wow you must be strong you beat the odds. or maybe others see you as being strong because they fell apart due to the same thing you just overcame.
I don't know i'm just rambling and thinking and not making sense.
this was emailed to me by rainingstairs. how true.,.,.
I think about all the time I've said to you all and others, "you are so strong," and as I think about my words and who and why I said them, I realize it was always said to those who when in the midst of catastrophe keep themselves together, and I say to them they are strong not because they are existing during this, but because I see them still standing, still together, still stiching up fraying seems, when may it be I or anouther in their shoes would just crumble because it would be understood and ok due to the atrosity of the situation. And when they tell me "no, I am not strong." or "no I am not because I am a mess" they only don't realize their stregnth because they do not see their situation as being warranted of crumbling, due to their own human nature to make where they are seem lighter, for if they were to admit to themselves the magnitude of their surroundings it would only be more depressing. we all make light of a situation to make ourselves feel better, and we end up believing it, and by believing it, it makes us feel as if the new lessered situation should be handled better because it is *not* *that* bad.
I think about all the people I, personally, see as being weak; and I notice it is those who did not pull through, by what ever means, and not fall apart when stuck in a hard place. Sure, it is understandable to crumble because their situation is so hard, but with the understanding its ok to crumble and taking that pass and crumbling rather than doing what ever necessary to stay together is taking the easy way out. If I look at all the people I veiw as strong, they were never those who took the easy way out crumbled and then quit just because it was hard. This quote makes me appreciate, truely, the stregnth people who stay alive and do not crumble have. Maybe because I feel that I could not do what they are doing and I would crumble; or perhaps, it is due to the fact that so many have crumbled when put in the same spot and that person i admire for their stregnth is overcomming odds that others could not.
Why is it easier to notice and except stregnth in others and not yourself. You never deny the stregnth you see in anouther when you see it, yet if you see it in yourself you deny such thoughts and dismiss them. Why is that?
I wonder if a person veiws stregnth with a harder to achieve mentality depending on the type of harsh times they have incountered personally in their life. Would a person who experienced fairly easy hard times see stregnth in a person who faces fairly easy obsticals compared to one who faced harder times? would their perception be different due to the severity they have overcome, or is overcomming anything warrented as stregnth because others might have not been able to overcome such a situation and because others have fallen apart they expect you too follow suit and when you don't its like woah you didnt crumble like all the others wow you must be strong you beat the odds. or maybe others see you as being strong because they fell apart due to the same thing you just overcame.
I don't know i'm just rambling and thinking and not making sense.