I have conflicting feelings about it all. I use Ms for work purposes because there's no way that i'm applying for jobs and letting them know that i'm married and tend to use Ms some of the rest of the time as well. But then i also use Mrs sometimes as well and my bank account is under 'Mrs'. I don't like it when people repeatedly refer to me as 'Mrs Mudge' as if they're making something out of the fact i'm married (when i first got married people at our old church used to do this and it got old VERY quickly). Oh and i haven't even bothered to change my passport so that still has 'Miss Brown' on it (this horrifies one of my friends who can't believe that i haven't got it changed yet; she changed hers immediately after getting married).
This is what I was trying to explain to the friend I've mentioned above. If you're a young woman who applies for a job as a Mrs. some people won't be able to help but make the assumption that you're going to up sticks soon and have babies. The thing that I can't believe still happens is the wife of Mr John Smith being referred to as Mrs John Smith. Urghurghurgh. x
I really believe in Ms as a very basic and effective egalitarian tool. My marital status is nobody's business unless I choose to advertise it, and something as fundamental as a title - a key component of formal identity - shouldn't require you to specify
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Thanks for the response. I completely agree, yet find not many people using Ms. It's very annoying that a word that was meant to avoid stereotyping has ended up creating its own. I found myself in one of those frustrating arguments with a friend of mine where I simply couldn't make him, as a man, understand how important it was. Also, it isn't so much a problem when you are a Miss, as you could then be single, dating, engaged, married, divorced, polyamorous.. but Mrs can only mean one thing, so I feel like for the sake of that I should use Ms throughout my life.
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