Tell Me Why...

[nickys]

Recently I was having a conversation in which the subject of Rolf Harris came up. Guy I was talking to launched into a rant about how he thought it was dodgy that nobody had mentioned problems at the time

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[aiwendel]

I'm sorry you have suffered. :-(

If you feel able to answer, and I understand if not, was your suffering worse after the revelation that you had been abused? If so is there a way to help / address feelings of anger or shame victims have / to help without giving these negative feelings on reinterpreting events?

I've had some bad experiences, which I don't want to talk about, which some people would interpret as abuse. I could see myself as a victim. I choose not to because if I do it's more awful and I feel less empowered. I could have probably avoided the situation, had I been less polite.... I don't even want to think about it. Instead I remind myself that smear tests are just as bad, in some ways, and figure how I choose to interpret the bad events of my past has an effect on how I feel. So I brush them aside as part of life, no big deal, stuff that happens, then I don't feel so bad about it.

[nickys]

I felt angry that I hadn't previously had the information that what happened was a) wrong and b) not my fault