Sick and tired

[nicnacpaddywac]

Of pretending.  Of having no support.  Of coping alone.  No, nothing dramatic has happened, i've just reached the end of my tether.  Connor's behaviour and sleeping have become utterly appalling again.  I feel like a really shit mum (i know i'm not, but equally i don't like the mum i am just now, shouting, ranting, not knowing what to do.)

I don't

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[faeriemoo]

Oh Nic, you poor love *hugs*

If you can find a way to get here, you are more than welcome to leave Connor with me for a few hours/a night so that the two of you can go out for a bit/have some sleep/veg in front of the telly/whatever.

let me know if I can do anything to help!! xx

[nicnacpaddywac]

Many thanks - just being there is enough, and i have been *seriously* tempted to ask a couple of times if i could bail out to yours for a day or two to clear my head and think a bit. (And, being a bit cryptic - knowing you've "done it" is giving me a bit of confidence that i might be able to too IYSWIM).

[tin_kitten]

Aaw, poor you. Would it help if we took Connor for an afternoon or something, give you a break? I appreciate if you are not comfortable with that, after all we only know each other online, but the offer is there if you think it could help.

[nicnacpaddywac]

Many thanks for the offer - just knowing i have options now is helping a lot - i'm sure you know how stressful it can be when you feel you don't have any, and people offering to help has been great.

[nicnacpaddywac]

Just knowing you're about is more than enough sweetie - Hugs.

[akcipitrokulo]

I know we're far away, but if you want to come down for holiday you'd be very welcome (all of you!). We could watch Connor for a while if you wanted to get out & about.

I noticed that Assa has also commented - I'm sure he wouldn't mind coming over for a few hours as well!

[nicnacpaddywac]

Many thanks sweetie - very much appreciated, and something i'll think about!

[neophyte_13]

want me to come through for a few days this week and help deal with Connor? I can take him out for walks to give you some peace in the house and stay in with him so you can go out for a break. I know he doesn't cope too well with huge changes or I'd suggest Douglas and I coming through and grabbing him and whatever he needs for a few days and keeping him here, although it's an option if you think he'd cope. Another alternative is if you've got somewhere you can go for a couple of days I can stay at yours with him. I'm not doing fabulously myself but I always do better when I'm helping someone else out and I can cope with other peoples kids even if I can't cope with Brandon, it's the extra guilt of your own child crying that breaks you compared to someone elses.

[nicnacpaddywac]

Its amazing how much easier other kids are than your own, eh? Ta for the offer hon. I think i'm a smidging better today, so we'll see how we go. Would be lovely to catch up soon though, hopefully in better circumstances - maybe a day out somewhere over the summer?