Finally talked to my Dad......

[night_aria]

I finally got in touch with my Dad today. He isn't doing very well... he broke down crying a few times during our conversation. Sandy moved back in with her ex husband and won't give Dad the money back. His water got shut off and she stabbed holes in their water bed so now the carpet in his room might have to be pulled up and changed since he wasn'

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[basric]

sounds as if you both need some comfort. He should have had her arrested for destruction of property.

There's nothing you can do for him but be there until he comes to grip with this himself. I hope he does go to church with you maybe he will find solace there.

Hugs for you both.

[night_aria]

Thanks so much. I know you are right all I can do is be there when he is ready to talk. Thanks so much for being there and reading my posts. :)

[beautifulpoetic]

You and him will definitely be in my prayers sis. This is a really difficult time, especially heading into the holiday season. It's disappointing that his wife is going to such extremes. It seems rather petty of her, but than again I don't know the whole situation either. I just hope that the balance will be found soon.

[night_aria]

Thanks sis. It really means a lot to me :)I know there isn't a whole lot I can do for him now I just wish there was. Thanks so much for being there.

[paigehunt]

Can your dad afford a divorce lawyer? He really needs one. Depending on what state your dad lives in, there are laws governing equitable distribution, the money Sandy takes, destruction of property, etc. If he can't afford an attorney, there are legal services that might be able to help him.

I would urge him to file a police report if only to make a record of the damage she caused in the marital home. Doesn't mean he has to press charges, it establishes a record of her bad, destructive conduct.

I'm really sorry that you're going through all of this. But, don't think that there's nothing you can do for your dad. You're being there for him. That's worth more than you can possibly realize.

Hugs!

[night_aria]

Thanks so much! Yes my dad really does need a lawyer he said something to me about getting one. I don't know if the report has been filed about what Sandy did with the bed. I know they are trying to do something about the money but who knows how it will end up.

You are right. I don't think there is anything I can do either but be there when he lets me. Just sometimes it seems like so little.

thanks again!