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[nihilie]

Oh... did I mention that my mother is thinking about moving here to "help care for [her] granddaughter

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Ack!

[osbick_bird]

Geeze, that's a toughie. Ideally my advice would be to try and convey that you love her, she's important and has a role in your and your daughter's lives, etc. etc. while firmly discouraging her from actually moving, but moms (okay well at least my mom) is prone to taking things too personally and freaking out. It seems like expressing the second part (ie don't move here!) precludes conveying the first (i love you, you are significant) as clearly. Have you talked to her again about this? Any developments?

Re: Ack!

[nihilie]

Well... When I talked to her on Thursday, she told me her company will not offer a severance package. I told her they would likely offer her something when she mentions the possibility of a lawsuit. She said "No...[la blah blah]I don't think that would work." Yesterday she called me to tell me she talked to a lady in her office who said she should file suit against the company for a variety of things. My opinion has no merit, but the same opinion coming from some random person at work is so much more worthwhile. She is now in contact with a lawyer and plans to file suit. I'm not sure exactly what the charges will be because I'm not well-versed in California law (or any other law for that matter), but hopefully they will offer her a parting gift to avoid any bad PR. As far as her moving here is concerned, I mentioned how terrible the job market is here and the cost of rent. If she is determined to move here, she will find a way, but I am going to paint what I consider to be an accurate picture of Boise for her. Boise is not a very

mother moving to Boise

[mezamashii]

You live here... so you painting Boise as a miserable place won't be taken very seriously. Its hard, but you'll need to be brutally honest. Better to have her a little mad now than have her be in town and you having to break off relations with her entirely to have your own space. And what about her mom? Also, if she goes out of state, she won't be eligible for unemployment benefits. Tell her not to move here without a job. Idaho welfare sucks!

Hey, maybe your grandma & your mom could both move here & live down in this apartment! (TEASE!)
Anyways, sounds tough! Good luck to you with it!