You aren't going to like this, but ...yellowrosetxAugust 31 2006, 08:25:48 UTC
If this is Jill's first baby, you don't mention how many kids she's had, those aunts might be thinking she has nothing and needs the shower more than a third time mother.
Some people go by the one shower per person rule, no matter how many kids they have. Rather like a woman should only have one bridal shower, otherwise, she looks rather greedy.
I realize you're irritated with your aunts, and rightly so, it was rude of them to talk about planning other showers in front of you. However, depending on where you were when you made the comment about Jill's cute belly, did you think about her feelings because she might have heard you? And did you also take into consideration that someone else might have heard and maybe decided to dish out a little... "Let's roast the big mouth bitch" treatment?
And one last thing ... you don't mention if Jill's mother is involved with the shower planning or even if she's living, but I really have to ask this ... why isn't your mother planning a shower for you?
Re: You aren't going to like this, but ...chelle_lizAugust 31 2006, 20:07:21 UTC
I agree.. you didn't mention several of these things so how are we to know if they are just being mean or really thinking you've had your showers and it's time for someone else.
At least you have a mom with you and she could/can plan a shower for you if she wanted. Some people aren't lucky enough to live close enough to relatives to get showers (or still have relatives living).... or even have them near by to bitch at for the lack of a shower!
I've now had two children and haven't had the ability to get a shower from any friends OR family either time because we haven't lived within a state of loved ones at either time.
I can understand feeling hurt because they talked about your Aunt's shower and acted like you weren't pregnant and didn't include you in the conversation.... but could there be reasons why?
Re: You aren't going to like this, but ...yellowrosetxAugust 31 2006, 22:10:56 UTC
I can understand feeling hurt because they talked about your Aunt's shower and acted like you weren't pregnant and didn't include you in the conversation.... but could there be reasons why?
I was thinking the same thing...
Best case scenerio, one of the other showers they were discussing is a surprise.
Worst case scenario ... Maybe your mother isn't the only one that was disapproving of your current pregnancy given the state of affairs at the time with Milt.
Re: You aren't going to like this, but ...chelle_lizSeptember 1 2006, 14:55:08 UTC
"....Worse case scenario...."
That is what I was thinking. As sad as it is to be unhappy about the coming of a baby, perhaps they aren't thrilled about this pregnancy and this is how they are showing their disapproval.
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Some people go by the one shower per person rule, no matter how many kids they have. Rather like a woman should only have one bridal shower, otherwise, she looks rather greedy.
I realize you're irritated with your aunts, and rightly so, it was rude of them to talk about planning other showers in front of you. However, depending on where you were when you made the comment about Jill's cute belly, did you think about her feelings because she might have heard you? And did you also take into consideration that someone else might have heard and maybe decided to dish out a little... "Let's roast the big mouth bitch" treatment?
And one last thing ... you don't mention if Jill's mother is involved with the shower planning or even if she's living, but I really have to ask this ... why isn't your mother planning a shower for you?
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At least you have a mom with you and she could/can plan a shower for you if she wanted.
Some people aren't lucky enough to live close enough to relatives to get showers (or still have relatives living).... or even have them near by to bitch at for the lack of a shower!
I've now had two children and haven't had the ability to get a shower from any friends OR family either time because we haven't lived within a state of loved ones at either time.
I can understand feeling hurt because they talked about your Aunt's shower and acted like you weren't pregnant and didn't include you in the conversation.... but could there be reasons why?
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I was thinking the same thing...
Best case scenerio, one of the other showers they were discussing is a surprise.
Worst case scenario ... Maybe your mother isn't the only one that was disapproving of your current pregnancy given the state of affairs at the time with Milt.
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That is what I was thinking. As sad as it is to be unhappy about the coming of a baby, perhaps they aren't thrilled about this pregnancy and this is how they are showing their disapproval.
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