I'll second that... I certainly find that statement insulting, as it would, on occasion, have labelled me as an abuser. It also, bizarrely, suggests that if you are playing outside of a 'love' relationship BDSM might be expected to be abusive.
Actually, I'm just sick to death of the whole idea of SSC and various other acronyms devised to make perves look cozy and friendly to kink curious vanillas on the internet. If everyone's an adult, and everyone is happy, it's frankly no-one else's business.
The main (real life) BDSM group here in Jutland have only one rule for their events... if you come across a scene you find disturbing or upsetting, go away and stop watching before you spoil it for the participants.
Punching is a taboo and seems to really engender strong feelings... and I sort of understand why. For me, if someone punched me during play I'd probably punch them back - but smack me round the face til my brains rattle and I'll purr. Weirdly enough I also can't watch people being punched - even if I know they love it - which is why it's one of the few big "no-no's" on Shadowslaves.
That said - the only part of SSC I uphold is the "C" part. So if someone criticises you for enjoying punching I'd be inclined to punch their lights out ;)
"The main (real life) BDSM group here in Jutland have only one rule for their events... if you come across a scene you find disturbing or upsetting, go away and stop watching before you spoil it for the participants."
Wow..... I think that's unheard of over here, a bdsm group that trusts people who attend to that level. I know that i can't play how i would like to in clubs a lot of the time, and it can be very frustrating. I have been in clubs and not liked what was going on, so i didn't watch, it's really not that difficult!
And i definately agree that a lot of stuff is just there to make us look better in the eyes of people who really aren't interested.
Thank you for your reply......... i didn't actually expect to get any from this!!
The group's called SMil... we haven't joined or attended any events yet, but they certainly read well and have a busy calendar... I think the image they chose to represent them on their front end at http://www.sado.dk/smil/ bodes well though LOL. I'm sure once we do join we'll be testing their tolerance to the limit.
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What i don't like is what i consent to being challenged and told its all abuse..........i've been abused and that sure as hell wasn't consentual!
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Actually, I'm just sick to death of the whole idea of SSC and various other acronyms devised to make perves look cozy and friendly to kink curious vanillas on the internet. If everyone's an adult, and everyone is happy, it's frankly no-one else's business.
The main (real life) BDSM group here in Jutland have only one rule for their events... if you come across a scene you find disturbing or upsetting, go away and stop watching before you spoil it for the participants.
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That said - the only part of SSC I uphold is the "C" part. So if someone criticises you for enjoying punching I'd be inclined to punch their lights out ;)
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Wow..... I think that's unheard of over here, a bdsm group that trusts people who attend to that level. I know that i can't play how i would like to in clubs a lot of the time, and it can be very frustrating. I have been in clubs and not liked what was going on, so i didn't watch, it's really not that difficult!
And i definately agree that a lot of stuff is just there to make us look better in the eyes of people who really aren't interested.
Thank you for your reply......... i didn't actually expect to get any from this!!
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