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[ninja_becki]

Hey, Becki, what's new with you?

Nothing.

Well, I guess that's a lie. Cause I started a new job two months ago and am buying a house.

Work:Alright, so honestly, I was gonna post all kinds of stuff about this, but the first week was so disenheartening, I couldn't bring myself to do it. First off, no one trained me. I had all these different

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[blueirisheyez]

Major life changes can definitely be stressful! Looking for houses is a blast. Once that escrow agreement gets signed it feels like DOOM! Sounds like everything is going well though. Your fear of not having enough money never goes away though. There are always going to be things to be done, or things to upgrade or things you want to buy. Try to embrace the excitement of your first home and all that goes with it and try not to focus on the throwing up part! Hahaha

[ninja_becki]

I know some of the things she called me out on were validated. Like I wish I hadn't said anything about the stupid offices. But I also feel like she read into EVERYTHING I said and did and turned it around on me. Like, there was a potluck, and I had said that I was trying to lose weight and would need to scope it out to see what I can eat. And she said that made me ungrateful. And that I wouldn't go outside with them when they smoke because I have asthma, that made me stand-offish

[blueirisheyez]

You hate being reprimanded by aggressive people? Dude...how are we friends? hahahah!

[ninja_becki]

Yeah, man! 'Cause when I was a kid, I never got grounded or punished in any other way, I just got yelled at. So getting yelled at gives me actual panic attacks. Like, squeedge knows he has to keep from raising his voice when we argue, otherwise I will instantly start crying.

Remember when I told you I walk around eggshells with you sometimes? Does that make more sense now? lol

[lalanav]

Aw - well I'm sure you'll learn to handle it all! It just takes practice. Keep at it, you'll figure it out! With work, yeah, work politics suck. I've learned that in an office environment, it's much better to be safe until you've figured out the personalities you're working with. It's always good to just be positive, too, because then people are more likely to want to do things for you. I know it's hard, but it will get easier.

Yay house! Good luck with everything - moving does suck, but once it's done, it's done! My best advice is to have one box that has a couple of glasses, plates, silverware (paper/plastic is fine if ou don't want to use the real thing in the beginning), napkins, papertowels, etc. so that on moving day, when you're hungry and want to eat stuff off a PLATE (if you get takeout or whatever), you have easy access. Good luck with closing, I hope everything's been resolved!

[ninja_becki]

I have this horrible problem, where I know I am sarcastic, so I try to tone it down, but then people think I have an attitude problem even though I am trying to be nice. I come off as cold, I guess. I just can't seem to find a middle ground.

[eightydollsyell]

New jobs and buying a house are two of the most stressful things to go through!

*hugs* once you move in it will all be worth it - i promise.

[ninja_becki]

Oh god, I hope so. The anxiety has been so bad, I've wanted to just up and bail like 12 times in the last month.

[sarcasticsiren]

I so agree!! Once things settle down a bit with the house, you'll feel better.

And for me, it always take a little while to "feel out" my coworkers and see how much joking around/sarcasm they can take. Some people are just more sensitive than others.

[lizzie]

Hopefully you'll get into a good groove at work and they'll realize the comments were meant to be funny/sarcastic, not mean. I'm totally with you, though - I'd have said those things, too, and not thought anything of how they might come across! I'm glad she was understanding once you started to cry (although I wish you hadn't felt the need to cry in the first place).

I can't imagine starting a new job and buying a house at the same time - holy stress, Batman! That's a lot on your plate right now.