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[nippily]

um...so how do i bring it about to jenny that i really want her to start loosing weight? she used to weigh like 140, now she has to be 170+. its not attractive and it makes me less attracted to her. so how do i let her know that i think she needs to start loosing weight and soon?

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[scarlette_eyes]

ouch. There's never an easy way to break it to a girl that she's gotten fat. I actually thought your little bet the first time was the cleverest idea I've heard. hmmmm....the best way to try and get her to lose weight is to watch what she eats and try to suggest going out to eat somewhere less fattening and have less ice~cream or sweets but depending on how you go about that she could catch on and flip out at you. The only I can suggest aside from out right telling her {which wouldn't end up as nicely} is to try and monitor her eating habits and try to put healthier food in front of her. That or don't do anything sexual with her for a while, ESPECIALLY when she tries to get you into it. That always works for me. Whenever I want Alex and he says no I start worrying I'm not as attractive to him anymore and I do work harder to look nicer for him.

Sorry I couldn't be more help but this is a really tough thing to break to a girlfriend if she freaks out like Jenny does. Mayeb Alex could suggest something clever.

[nippily]

she already doesnt do anything sexual with me because she doesnt feel attractive, but she does nothing about it, the bet thing fell through, she used to exercise but that only lasted for a few days.

theres only so much i can suggest without outright saying "you're fat, please loose weight"

[howuchngdmywrld]

i DO NOT think you should trick her into losing weight. like, tricking her into eating healthier foods. you can't trick someone into losing weight. obviously she's gained weight and when that happens there's usually an underline reason. it usually doesn't just happen for no reason. i think you need to talk to her in a non threatening way and show some concern i guess so she doesn't think you're attacking her. i dunno, try this article...lol:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith_100/144_dating_advice.html

[scarlette_eyes]

I dunno. I don't know Jenny well but she seems to be VERY sesitive about anything and get defensive so I have no ideas for what he can do. I mean your idea is probably the best but for what I hear and think of Jenny I think she'd get offensive anyway and start yelling at him. But I agree. Skott try that and if that STILL doesn't work I can't help you. *shrug* sorry it's a touchy and difficult thing to deal with.

[trish_d_dish]

alot of the weight is probably from going out and drinking...and then not exercising on top of that...a tricky way to do get her to lose weight would be to suggest you do it together. say you're going to try and eat healthier and drink lo-calorie drinks and exercise more and what-not. if you do it together, she's more likely to keep it up. keep each other in check....

i'm not saying you need to lose weight or anything but if she feels like you're a little concious about your body, she might catch on and think about hers a little more too.

[scarlette_eyes]

i like this idea.

[iceydragon]

FINE IF YOU CAN'T SAY IT I WILL!

OMG SCOTT YOU ARE SO FAT NOW. We haven't had sex in months because you feel unattractive. Jezze, but um hay, big guy, umm. mabey we can ya'know do it .. Together.. <3

[nippily]

i already work out at the gym after i leave her house, so she knows im working out alot now. i thought that would give her a little encouragement, but i dont know, i kinda mentioned it on the phone to her today asking if she still ran as much and encouraged her to, so hopefully that helps