Motherhood

[nishushan]

I am feeling that motherhood is very lonely and isolating at times. Before having a child, other childless friends and I would get together with great ease and enjoy each other's company. That doesn't happen as much or really at all anymore. It takes great effort on my part to arrange schedules to either appear without child or to involve said

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[kellianne]

I felt the same way about mothering through Niko's baby years. I now see those first two years of parenting as such a time of transition. Friends who don't have kids just don't understand. They have no point of reference to share empathy with you, and you have two brain cells to rub together after working and not sleeping for months and years at a time- which is frustrating to non-parenting adults who are used to having linear conversation. Friends WITH kids means that you all are hanging out in a kitchen or at the park sharing empathy, but you literally can't complete a sentence because, well, littles are nuts

[kellianne]

I know that preschool is still a while away for you guys, but I just wanted to add that the reason our preschool has been so community building for us is because they really encourage us to hang out a bit. I read a book to Niko before leaving him there for the day. When I pick him up, I hang out with the kids, chat with the parents, and often end up walking home with other families. I've visited other schools that were not as social in nature, and specifically choose this one because I felt so comfortable hanging out there for however long I wanted. It's been a real boon to my community building in a new city!

[nishushan]

Thank you so much Kellianne! It's true, it won't be like this forever and it is a transition. I am looking forward to more community for Hazel. I'm going to go to toddler gym this Saturday!