Firstly, I agree with the two comments above mine, definitely. So I won't repeat that sentiment.
Secondly, I recognize the guilt from hindsight. It's probably worse for you, because you were far more intelligent and perceptive than most of your peers at any age, so the question comes up "Why didn't I do _____, I should have known?".
But here's the thing - your dad is an adult. I know when other people lay the cause of their decisions on anyone other than themselves, I find it to be insincere and untrue, especially in myself. If my mum came to me and said, "I'm so sorry for doing this badly, it made you do ____," I would be quite indignant for someone acting as if I could not make my own decision.
So it might be difficult to alleviate your own guilt, but you are not responsible for any of your dad's decision. You can only control your own actions, so while it could be scary and exhausting, I would say give him a phone call or go to coffee together.
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Secondly, I recognize the guilt from hindsight. It's probably worse for you, because you were far more intelligent and perceptive than most of your peers at any age, so the question comes up "Why didn't I do _____, I should have known?".
But here's the thing - your dad is an adult. I know when other people lay the cause of their decisions on anyone other than themselves, I find it to be insincere and untrue, especially in myself. If my mum came to me and said, "I'm so sorry for doing this badly, it made you do ____," I would be quite indignant for someone acting as if I could not make my own decision.
So it might be difficult to alleviate your own guilt, but you are not responsible for any of your dad's decision. You can only control your own actions, so while it could be scary and exhausting, I would say give him a phone call or go to coffee together.
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