Fuck shame, for sure, but fuck stripping yourself bare again too. That is, I think that baring your soul can be a very very good thing, but I also learned from my last experience that part of rejecting shame (for me anyway) means not just tearing it away but being gentle with myself and my processing.
Good point, there. For me, now, it feels like a very good thing to do, but yeah, be gentle with yourself. That's exactly what the therapist said to me and you-know-who last week - "I'm not going to give you any homework this week. Just be gentle with each other." And I've definitely needed it this past week, processing what it was like to talk about those things, blog about them, talk about them more.
Bottom line, I suppose, is to do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.
For context, assuming anybody else is reading my LJ anymore, here's the article that links to this post. I wrote this post specifically as a way to suplpy detail to that article, without making it mandatory reading.
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Good point, there. For me, now, it feels like a very good thing to do, but yeah, be gentle with yourself. That's exactly what the therapist said to me and you-know-who last week - "I'm not going to give you any homework this week. Just be gentle with each other." And I've definitely needed it this past week, processing what it was like to talk about those things, blog about them, talk about them more.
Bottom line, I suppose, is to do whatever you need to do to take care of yourself.
Love.
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