The main reason I ended up at this job in the first place is that this is a company that's tiny enough to not have a dress code... And I honestly don't think I could remain even slightly sane for longer than a few days if I was required to come to work wearing male business casual clothes.
I kindda figure more or less any company tiny enough to not have a dress code is likely to suffer from the same sorts of problems... Overwhelming amounts of office politics and gossip... Lack of an official non-discrimination policy... Lack of anyone to talk to if your direct superior makes comments that make you uncomfortable... etc etc etc.
As immensely trapped as I feel where I am right now... I also feel like I'm probably extremely lucky to have found a place where I can actually *function* without just started right off the bat being stealth.
The closest thing we have to an HR department is this woman Cindy... Who is:
My girlfriend's direct supervisor
My painfully straight and excruciatingly boring officemate's wife
The sister of my painfully straight, fairly chauvanistic, direct superior boss, who's also the CEO of the entire company.
In other words, if I tried to talk to HR... HR would immediately make things uncomfortable for my girlfriend, gossip to her husband (thereby making things between me and the guy I'm forced to share an office with fairly uncomfortable) and probably gossip to her chauvanist brother as well... And I don't even want to begin to try to theorize as to how he'd react.
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could you start looking for another job, one which you could go full time in?
just think how far you have come over the last two years.
I remember calling you when you were at your worst, and you're not there now.
take care Kate.
~Ivy
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I kindda figure more or less any company tiny enough to not have a dress code is likely to suffer from the same sorts of problems... Overwhelming amounts of office politics and gossip... Lack of an official non-discrimination policy... Lack of anyone to talk to if your direct superior makes comments that make you uncomfortable... etc etc etc.
As immensely trapped as I feel where I am right now... I also feel like I'm probably extremely lucky to have found a place where I can actually *function* without just started right off the bat being stealth.
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I just wish you could go full time, as I think that maybe that will help so much.
~Ivy
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In other words, if I tried to talk to HR... HR would immediately make things uncomfortable for my girlfriend, gossip to her husband (thereby making things between me and the guy I'm forced to share an office with fairly uncomfortable) and probably gossip to her chauvanist brother as well... And I don't even want to begin to try to theorize as to how he'd react.
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