Comments | nocturnalblue: the nice guys argument

nocturnalblue

the nice guys argument

Jul 22, 2009 20:34

this issue has always bugged the crap out of me

I am continually seeing this and thoroughly annoyed by it

today it popped up again, and this time I decided I'd throw my 2 cents in

( what happened to all the nice guys? )

Comments 8

helronthefallen July 23 2009, 03:22:47 UTC

The 'recovering nice guy' had me when he spoke about his painfully 'platonic' relationship with the girl. First of all, these guys should realize that they shouldn't fall in love with every girl who accepts them as a friend - it's pathetic, painful to watch, and it makes a lot of girls reject guys as friends in general. Being a friend with a girl doesn't mean there is a hook up waiting somewhere down the road - it means that we're there for our friend, and yes, we listen to her bitch about her boyfriend, because fuck, that's what friends do! Why do they make it seem like listening to a friend complain is such an honorable trait??? It comes with the territory, it's what friendship is ( ... )

blackknight09 July 23 2009, 12:05:38 UTC

I realized this a while back and I've happily accepted the rather frank reality that not everyone is meant for companionship. The whole "love" emotion is a socially evolved concept meant to strengthen a bond between people, this type of phenomena was even shown by archeabacteria(albeit on a crude level), which renders it vulnerable to change as it's not genetic.

The sad part is that I almost had a relationship with this amazing chick last year, but I ended up pushing her away by emotionally guarding myself thinking that she wouldn't go for someone like me, but she actually did now that I look back on it.

All-in-all, I do agree with your explanation on the "recovering nice guy" part and it should definitely be addressed more, the truth is not always the easiest thing to hear.

blackknight09 July 23 2009, 12:07:40 UTC

Plus, If I do wind up alone, that's what alcohol is made for.

nocturnalblue July 23 2009, 17:43:22 UTC

OMG people we're in our freaking 20's!!!!

just because you haven't found "the right one" by this point doesn't mean you never will

also, as people get older, different things start to become more important to them. Just because you didn't make it at this point in your life for some reason or other, isn't saying you won't be able to later.

EVERYONE is capable of companionship

if a half ton dude could find a wife
and a lady with no nose could find a husband
I really think the rest of us need not worry so damn much

blackknight09 July 23 2009, 23:13:40 UTC

Alas, I'm past my prime. I'm just messing with you Kristal haha, but yes, I do agree with your entry.

x_abysmal_x July 23 2009, 23:42:32 UTC

I totally agree with you.
I saw this bulletin as well, and blew it off, saying "whatever" because I knew who it was coming from.

It's ridiculous for anyone to assume that every girl wants an asshole. They're pretty much saying that guys can be different, but all girls are the same...and apparently none of us want a nice guy.

I could restate everything you just said differently, but I'm not going to because that would be pointless, lol. Just saying that I completely agree with everything you said. =)

nocturnalblue July 24 2009, 01:21:24 UTC

haha, right on!

I just find it funny to see what ridiculous claims these guys make in order to make themselves feel better about being rejected. Anything to take the blame off themselves.

x_abysmal_x July 25 2009, 04:36:51 UTC

exactly.

which makes me even happier that I found a guy that's nice, along with other great qualities, who doesn't do that stupid shit. =D