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Aug 06, 2007 17:51

And back to work we go after a very nice weekend. Seeing friends and making plans for weekends to come gives me the feeling that the rest of the summer isn't going to be such a colossal disappointment. Next weekend I'm going to the Delaward Outlets to go shopping, and the weekend after (or the next) we're going to be going to Rehoboth either for ( Read more... )

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evil_admiral August 7 2007, 00:52:26 UTC

I don't know what to say that can be useful. I never had good luck with guys my age (hell my longest lasting relationship is the current one with my 37 year old bf). Older guys always seemed to be interested in me, whereas guys my age have an attitude of "And you are talking to me why?"

Of course you may have better luck. I've heard that Northern gay men aren't as elitest/snobby as the Southern boys.

nom_de_plume_86 August 7 2007, 13:47:02 UTC

Haha, I don't know who told you that but I've never heard anyone say anyone from the south was more elitist or snobbier than anyone from the north. Trust me, they're just as bad as the Southern boys I've met.
My issue is I usually find guys my age to be pretty two dimensional and shallow that can't see anything beyond the next party or club they're planning on going to. My issue with the older guys, like the 28 year old I mentioned, is that while I'm working and planning for a future, he's already bought a condo, has a car, and a life insurance policy and he was generally uninterested in being adventurous at all. He had his own little niche in the world, which he has worked hard to accomplish, but he didn't want to budge. He and I really are at completely different places in our lives.

soulofchris August 7 2007, 14:12:38 UTC

I dated a 20 year old and he was fun, kind and completely immature.

I dated a 24 year old and he was together, responsible and a total fucking prick.

There doesn't seem to be a happy medium.

evil_admiral August 8 2007, 01:07:02 UTC

You know what, that is so true in a lot of ways. Ken complains that he doesn't like working the long hours his new job requires, that he may never fully "get" what he's doing (even though I think that's BS since he is much smarter than I am), and that he won't ever stand out enough or develop the necessary leadership skills to advance to an executive level in his career (or that he has the people skills to do so). So I tell him, "Go back and get your Ph.D. in Economics or business or something, so you can go to the academic world where you belong!" (he has a MA in Econ already). Then he always responds, "Assuming I could finish it, I can't afford it! I have a mortgage, car payments, bills, and I need to build up my 401k ( ... )

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soulofchris August 7 2007, 09:10:44 UTC

Good for you on the deleting of the boy. I did that with one of my exes -- he still tries to contact me, but I've found that pretending I've disappeared off the face of the planet (even though he works where I do) makes it much easier. Plus, I'd only have nasty, nasty things to say.

ascendant August 7 2007, 13:21:04 UTC

i agree on this one. people will try to break back into your life at the darndest times, but you at least have the right to start building up your life again without them in your face.

nom_de_plume_86 August 7 2007, 13:53:18 UTC

Damn right. As far as I'm concerned he's lucky I haven't decided to drive him out of my city.

nom_de_plume_86 August 7 2007, 13:52:21 UTC

Thanks. This one hasn't tried to contact me for some time now since I told him off the first time. He tried making me feel guilty for the fact that he had been avoiding places where he knew I'd hung out and interacting with my friends (who were more of casual acquaintances with him). And I told him flat out "You're the one who dumped me, not the other way around. This was the way you wanted things to be so this is the way they're going to be. I know you dropped the 'lets still be friends' line but I'm sorry, that's just not going to work with me. As for 'avoiding' places and events where you know I'll be in attendance, it's not my fault if MY friends have stopped inviting you to things because we're not together anymore. They have full freedom to hang with whoever they want to and if they're discluding you, that's on them, not me." Haven't heard from him since, and good riddance.

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