Cleansing/disconnecting a talisman or stone... and my involvement in it?

[neumeindil]

Attempting to keep this brief: my Other Half is an empirical thinker and Buddhist on the Autism spectrum. He regularly wears a gold and onyx ring that belonged to his step-grandfather, a man who saw only my Other Half's "disability" and wrote him off as "useless" for most of their lives together. The ring was initially a gift from the grandfather's

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[jealousofstars]

If you haven't already, I'd smudge/cleanse the entire house. Other things you can do to your house -- add plants. Basil and rosemary are good for protection. You could sprinkle salt on the carpets/floor and allow it to absorb negative energy for a minute or two before you vacuum or sweep it out while visualizing the negative energies leaving your home

[neumeindil]

Thanks for your thoughts. You've hit on my biggest trouble-- my protective stones keep breaking, usually the bezel, but at least twice the crystal itself has cracked. So it sounds like time for an upgrade there. The bath may be difficult since my tub 1) doesn't hold water and 2) is where I spent most of the days during my last miscarriage, but I might be able to modify the normal ritual for the shower at the inlaws' since we have to go back to finish cleaning and put in AC units before they come home for the summer

[katze_neko_mew]

Which is why suggesting sage incense might work better. People are more used to incense, so the act of using it might be as funky to him.

[soulshrapnel]

I think other people in this thread are giving excellent advice already but I just want to ask, why are you spending so much effort and emotional energy on someone who believes that the things you work with every day don't exist, and that it's "crazy" to see or interact with them?

I get that from the world around me enough already. I don't need it in a romantic partner, too. (And the Autism spectrum is not an excuse - I know many Autistic witches.)

You deserve to be believed, especially by the person who is asking for your help in the first place...

[northernwalker]

I would get the ring professionally cleaned, then do a severing ritual and then a threefold cleansing on it and on your home. I can't do smudges, so I start with a sage spray I make up and bless ahead of time, then move to salt water that's been blessed and end with Florida water.

[neumeindil]

Thanks for the ingredients. :) Florida water is striking a chord since that's where the family members we're preparing for have just stayed the winter. There's an herbal shop in town that might have it, or I'm sure I can find a recipe online.

[harrietbrown]

I second what jealousofstars said. I used to do a housecleaning/temple cleansing ritual that involved sweeping the space widdershins (counterclockwise). Make sure to sweep everything out of the house. Then consecrate the four elements and carry them all around the space, widdershins, using sage incense for air. Sprinkle the salt and water, and smudge the air with the sage. Then you go around the space ringing a bell and chanting, "Out! Out! Out!" or "Begone!" also moving widdershins. Make a lot of noise. Concentrate especially on corners, dark areas, windows, entrances and exits, and where you feel any negativity lingers

[neumeindil]

Locking down our space will be difficult at best. I do, however, have some Fae of some sort that live here. I may have to ask them to help me out and bribe them with more chocolate and some pretty ribbons.

[harrietbrown]

Sounds like a plan!

[musiquephan]

I second All of the Above (just watch with the salt on the metal - it can corrode. put something between the metal and the salt. It still works...and in addition, if you think you are still having issues, you could contact a reputable medium and have them help you send whatever is attached to you back to the other side (similar to some of the work Kim Russo does...to drop a more-familiar name).

Good luck!

[neumeindil]

Thanks. I was concerned about physical changes to the ring based on what I use to cleanse, but a piece of parchment between it and the salt will probably suffice to protect the finish.

[couri]

What everyone else said, but instead of using salt (the stone is fairly porous), you could try burying it in the ground for awhile, and then smudge it, and then blast it with good energy ...I have an evil deceased relative (my grandmother ...we've got this hereditary thing going on in the family so she would have been a witch with a gift for healing, but she took that and twisted it and used it to harm and it drove her kind of mad) ...and I've done lots of cleansing and warding of my spaces, because she's mainly after me, but I also have her wedding rings (because my grandfather, whom I adored and who was a great man) picked them out. She can't get in now, and can't send anything in to cause trouble, but things were exciting for a bit before I figured this stuff out

[neumeindil]

Thanks for your input. You hit the nail on the head with "there's no such thing as overkill in these situations". And if nothing else, having his parents' house nice and clean and sweet smelling when they move back home for the summer is a nice gesture that will earn Other Half points

[couri]

I've stopped dating because I only attract men who want to kill me. I wonder what I'm putting out sometimes. If it's the bright light that attracts nasty things also attracts nasty men or if it's just me