LJI friends & rivals: topic 8

[noodledays]

I made a vow of temperance (though it didn't feel like anything so formal to me) after I found out I was pregnant. For the most part, it wasn't a hard one to keep because it was for such a personally worthwhile cause

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[failstoexist]

My mom plays piano and sings at home...I used to get mad because it was *so* loud when I was trying to do other things. I'm sure I hurt her feelings when I told her so, and I'm sure I wasn't very nice about it. I feel bad about it now, as an adult. Sometimes when I visit, she gets new music and plays it, and now I love hearing it.

[noodledays]

thank you for sharing this happy turn of events - things like this can always make me smile! :D

[dmousey]

Love that ending!!! No one had better tell me I can't sing in the car, they'd be left at the side ofthe road!'

As far as I know my kids didn't mind my singing in the car, but they were always encouraged to sing too.
My adorable grandson however- doens't like anyone singing! (He's 6).
Thanks for sharing! Peace~~~D

[northernwalker]

Musical temperance makes me laugh!

[inteus_mika]

I'm glad you came to some sort of compromise, because, otherwise, I'd say you're being entirely too accommodating. I don't know how old this young man is, but, seriously, he should be ashamed. Asking his poor mother to effectively not be herself in his presence because it bothers him? And robbing her of a joy that is core to her simple pleasures, even! I certainly hope this is not the way he is learning to treat women, and, I hope he comes one day to regret being such a jerk to you. I know you don't think of it that way, but, I do believe if you were to step back and look at it from outside your own family, and your love for him, you'd probably tell some other young man he needs to learn to chill, and let his mom enjoy singing. I have no issue with a kind request, "Mum, I hate that song, could you not?" But that should be the exception, rather than the rule

[noodledays]

he wasn't rude when he expressed it, just very honest. and when I explained what was happening as a result, he did regret the request and was glad enough to work out something else. :)

I do get what you're saying though, and you're right in that family members (especially younger ones) go through selfish phases where they don't think through how their actions or words may impact others.

Cheers to you too!

[whipchick]

Aww, so glad you two found a compromise!