Comments | norase2000: This is EXACTLY why i dont put myself out there emotionally

norase2000

This is EXACTLY why i dont put myself out there emotionally

Oct 28, 2007 00:21

He replied. It was like having a bucket of ice water thrown at me ( Read more... )

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shinymoroccan October 27 2007, 01:26:30 UTC

He could be lying to you so that you forget about meeting him in the states.. you know men are so weird. Just like my ex, who tells the whole world how much he loves and how much he misses me, but one him and I are left alone we stare at each other and we move on. He bites his tongue, to not say I miss you or I love you.

I am sick of men.

norase2000 October 27 2007, 01:54:58 UTC

hmmm. i know men generally are fucked up, but usually this one has no problems meaning what he says.. :(

sweetgreens October 27 2007, 04:40:41 UTC

He sounds like he's being a manipulative little prick, but I don't know him so I shouldn't be making a judgment call.

I just want you to be happy... :(

norase2000 October 27 2007, 18:15:31 UTC

oh, actually u do.. Its brendan decoster. :) i guess that means u know he's certainly not a prick :)

but thank u for the happy thoughts Rosie. and i am happy, really. even if he and i arent going to be friends anymore, i feel alright about how i played things out.

sweetgreens October 28 2007, 05:09:09 UTC

I'm sorry. I thought Brendan was cooler than that. But romance seems to bring out the petty little 2-year-olds in all guys. >:(

I'm glad you have no regrets, either way!

greenity October 27 2007, 08:30:17 UTC

I'd like to create a contrast to some of the other comments here, because I don't think that the fact of writing you a cold email is necessarily a straight-forward sign that he completely doesn't care anymore. Now obviously, I haven't read what he sent you, I never knew the guy personally, and I certainly don't know what's going on in his life now. BUT, based on what I do know, there's an enormous amount of emotional history and baggage between the two of you, and that may be really difficult for him to revisit, after all this time (especially given the role his wife seems to be playing now ( ... )

norase2000 October 27 2007, 18:12:50 UTC

i agree with u. The more i reflect about it, the more I think that he's not being cold bc he doesnt care, rather but bc he's still hurt about it deeeeep deep down, as most things that seem significnt when ur young last with you through life, plus he moved on, and this sort of gave him an oppertunity to.. not exactly "get back at me" for hurting him.. but sort of gave him the last word kind of thing. he's not petty, and he's not mean; he just had an oppertnity to send me back some of the hurt i dished out on him and he took it. probably wasnt even conscious of it. it was just reflex.

i hate his wife tho. absolutely hate that controling bitch. not bc he wont talk to me anymore, but the fact that he's happy to be her mindless minion/yes-man. wtf. that's not him. i dont want his wife to dominate him, even if he's not my friend anymore.