making friends: what is wrong with everybody?

[normy]

i find the making friends process to be a little shaky and honestly shady as fuck. people that are good at it are just a little bit too self important for my tastes. aside from the obvious, "where do you come from?", "whats your major?", "where are you staying?", "did you get all your classes?", the conversation that follows is either filled with

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[tomychagrin]

entertaining entry; although I must disagree with you here

[ashlitabonita]

you know joanna, if you didnt want me to call you 24/7 you really should nto have given me yor damn phone number. This entry is going to stop me form doing so....im too slow to pick up on cleverly placed hints. Now down to business. I think we should write a book...it would be very insightful. The thing is that im not opposed to make friends- i jsut think it should come naturally, without real effort. Plus, we are spolied and elitist bc we are friends with eachotehr and we each rock insane amounts. It si almsot lie a curse that i met you, bc now i expect all my friends to be equally funny and smart and hot and its jsut not working otu for me. oh well. btw, i think that the politeness is DEFINITELY being feigned...no offense josh...but people at schools like ours jsut cant be that nice...they just cant. you have to be an ass to succeed. ps- im one of those kids who would read a book about what is wrong with everyone else. haha im out kid

[tomychagrin]

"schools like ours" ???

I think there are more similarities between Hamilton and NCF than there are between Hamilton and Vanderbilt.

Small liberal arts colleges have a sense of community that larger universities do not, and therefore provide and INCENTIVE to actually be nice. Because they offer less anonymity, there is probably a social element to success that is nonexistent at a school like Vanderbilt. I could be wrong- I have never been to Hamilton. But generally speaking, it is in the student's interest at a small school to be gregarious and garner a positive reputation.

[normy]

in fact, you are both semi-right, emphasis on ashley being right. while my school is in fact a small liberal arts college, it is a liberal arts college that is one of the most expensive and and exclusive in the country. the "popped-collar-daddy-owns-a-sail-boat/small-country" phenomenon is ever present in both vanu and hamc, where as new college is quite a hippy, small time, weird little smart kids school. the agenda of the facility might be similar, but the social aspects are nothing alike. when i chose this school i was hoping for a more relaxed atmosphere, but i find that unfortunately, i am one of the small few that feels comfortable wearing pajamas to meals, and all that that stands for

[ashlitabonita]

it should say this entry will NOT stop me from doing so

audrey

[anonymous]

i would haved to agree, althoguh i have only been here for a day, that the friendship making oppurtunities are totally bogus. I have found two semi-good people at my fame class neither of whom i continued to speak to once said program was dismissed. Im sure I will eventually find friends but right now all i can think to talk about is the misfortune ive suffered from my stilling MIA bag which contains the gross majority of my clothing AND myh comforter. Right now all i have is a duvet cover and quite frankly its not as soft WITHOUT THE DUVET. I also miss my teddy bear. O well at least i have my back up plan...steal bens friends.... and believe me josh the smiles at schools like vandi, hamilton, and emory are completely bogus. Although today i did find out that i have noticeably gorgeous eyes

Re: audrey

[normy]

lol i have always maintained that you have pretty eyes. i wish i was back at the hotel that we used when we first got to utica, there was a guy there that was hitting on me and really wanted to tap this. yes, he was a creepy old guy that i would never want to touch, but the fact that someone thought i was pretty and worth talkign to for no reason is something that i miss here at hamc. i tried to talk to a couple people today, even pulled off a successful lengthly conversation with one girl but when i saw her later it was as thoguh we had never spoken. i am certainly not going to force her to be my friend... althoguh i thoguht we had enough in common.... this is the first time ever that i havent felt like i could say whatver i feel comfortable with the people im around and i hate it.

[elisaurus]

lol. nice. YEah. you make friends with people based on proximity and appearance. Oh and if you do publish a book send me a copy, it will go on my coffee table along with the Grossology book.