How do you define abuse? We've all probably been abused by someone at some point in our lives. When do you call it quits with the relationship? Again, how do you define abuse?
If it's you, and you suspect it's abuse, then it's abuse. If it's not you, and you suspect it's abuse, then it's probably abuse. If it's you, leave. If it's not you, have an honest conversation and offer whatever help you can and pray that she leaves.
When it hurts, mentally or physically? When it makes you afraid? When it puts you in a position where your mind is screaming "I don't want to do this but I don't know how to get out?" or just plain "Make it stop, please?"
I agree with rjlippincott, although it depends on the relationship. If it's a personal one then exactly. If it's work or student-teacher or any other relationship that involves someone in a position of power, you don't have to be afraid for it to be abuse, although it is something that often comes into it. It's harder to define, it could be something small like your boss making you do all the photocopying because you're the girl, despite it not being in your job description. Any misuse of the power relationship is abuse- whether it simply be verbal, or physical, power plays, fear of losing your job, etc...
I guess I would say anything that demeans a person or animal or even an object would be abusive. It may take form in subtle ways or outrageously but the purpose is still the same. It devalues creation's worth.
No mortal romance or friendship can heal the abuser. But while a friend can set sterner boundaries and minimize the abuse somewhat a romance can't. It is not the nature of romance to do so. It is best the romance ends at the first sign of abuse. And even for a friend it is best to end quickly if one cannot hold the abuser accountable constantly and consistently.
Comments 10
Reply
When it hurts, mentally or physically? When it makes you afraid? When it puts you in a position where your mind is screaming "I don't want to do this but I don't know how to get out?" or just plain "Make it stop, please?"
Reply
Reply
If it's work or student-teacher or any other relationship that involves someone in a position of power, you don't have to be afraid for it to be abuse, although it is something that often comes into it. It's harder to define, it could be something small like your boss making you do all the photocopying because you're the girl, despite it not being in your job description. Any misuse of the power relationship is abuse- whether it simply be verbal, or physical, power plays, fear of losing your job, etc...
Reply
Reply
No mortal romance or friendship can heal the abuser. But while a friend can set sterner boundaries and minimize the abuse somewhat a romance can't. It is not the nature of romance to do so. It is best the romance ends at the first sign of abuse. And even for a friend it is best to end quickly if one cannot hold the abuser accountable constantly and consistently.
Reply
Leave a comment