Awww, I'm OK :) Ungrateful rants are good for the soul. Thank you for saying adoption is sad, because I grow weary of people who say how lucky I should feel. Thank you for the link. And... YOUR CHILDREN ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! Wonderful pictures, and a really cool blog. I've enjoyed reading back through your archives.
i think your blog is awesome. it must be so frustrating for you, i bet lots of people think you are an anomaly, or just brattily dwelling on something you should get over. it is my opinion that adoptees who "don't care" or "are fine" are in bad shape inside.
i've read all *the books* - primal wound was the first one, and it really put what i knew into a format i could wave around saying, "SEE! I TOLD YOU I'M NOT MAKING THIS SHIT UP! IT AFFECTS PEOPLE!" i try to educate people as on adoption, but so often you get the blank stare, or someone says their cousin/schoolmate/friend was adopted and THEY'RE HAPPY and FINE and have no desire to meet their first parents, it's all about how you are raised, etc.
rather than go into all of my feelings on adoption, i'll just say that it mirrors that of many "ungratefuls", who would be better referred to as, "thinking, feeling people in touch with reality".
it was so sad to me because it is the worst pain i can imagine, right next to the pain of a relinquishing mother
People don't understand because generally they haven't been exposed to it. OTher than what everyone considers the "normal" rounds of anger and issues, I'd never heard of anything being ANTI-adoption until LJ and it astounds me. Not adopting my closest friend's little boy when she put him up is the biggest regret of my life. The *family* that adopted him changed his name and moved him out of the province. And that was his family.
Would you have any advice for people who wanted to adopt? Who were adopting? Who had already adopted? How could they make things easier (not "Better", as I don't think it could be) how could they be more understanding?
from this blog1.Educate yourself, read every book you can find on adoptees and on being an adoptive parent. (If you need any recommendations, ask me
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i think your blog is awesome. it must be so frustrating for you, i bet lots of people think you are an anomaly, or just brattily dwelling on something you should get over. it is my opinion that adoptees who "don't care" or "are fine" are in bad shape inside.
i've read all *the books* - primal wound was the first one, and it really put what i knew into a format i could wave around saying, "SEE! I TOLD YOU I'M NOT MAKING THIS SHIT UP! IT AFFECTS PEOPLE!" i try to educate people as on adoption, but so often you get the blank stare, or someone says their cousin/schoolmate/friend was adopted and THEY'RE HAPPY and FINE and have no desire to meet their first parents, it's all about how you are raised, etc.
rather than go into all of my feelings on adoption, i'll just say that it mirrors that of many "ungratefuls", who would be better referred to as, "thinking, feeling people in touch with reality".
it was so sad to me because it is the worst pain i can imagine, right next to the pain of a relinquishing mother
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Would you have any advice for people who wanted to adopt? Who were adopting? Who had already adopted? How could they make things easier (not "Better", as I don't think it could be) how could they be more understanding?
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