"You take the high road..."

[notmypresident]

It's been a while since I've posted directly to LiveJournal. This was by design, of course. I've been trying for the past year to "break into" some of the bear circles here in Portland, and it seems the vast majority of them - hell, all of the, from what I can see - use Facebook. And so, I've been posting over there in an attempt to insinuate

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[merlinwon]

So glad to read of your return. :) <3 I'm on facebook as well. If you'd like, friend me, randy hawkins, and send me an invite to those bear clubs! :) I'm in a few i'm sure..

Your bear of moment is a hottie...

[notmypresident]

I haven't joined many Facebook groups since I'm still not a fan of FB. And the ones I have tried are all local to Portland, so they wouldn't be of much use to you.

[badrobot68]

I noticed you hadn't posted much here (even though I haven't either).

Being friends as an adult is difficult. I feel like I have no free time to spend with anyone & have very little energy to go out and do stuff. I'm not sure if that's just be getting older and more introverted, or if it's what everyone goes through?

[notmypresident]

Being friends as an adult is difficult.

People definitely get into mind-sets. I enjoy spending time by myself, and can easily understand others who feel similarly and thus are less inclined to go out of their way to make new friends.

But having said that, I've come to believe that my age + my disability are major factors working against my breaking into Portland bear circles. I can't go to bars, and so I'm not seeing people who might otherwise be inclined to say hello. And I've always been the oldest guy at the bear games, which puts up yet another social wall.

But I haven't given up just yet.