How to heal any relationship you have in under three minutes*
I stumbled onto a really nifty way to heal relationships with people. So, I thought, I'm not the only person in the world who has these relationship-things, maybe other people would find this helpful too.
First, some background.
You must take responsibility for every relationship you have. Regardless of how that other person acts (or doesn't act), there is some part of you that either needs that interaction, or encourages it, or you're there to learn something. If you believe that you're the victim, and that you have no influence whatsoever, well, guess what? You won't. The good news is, as soon as you take responsibility, think/feel & act accordingly, you get massive amounts of control - of yourself, not of them. And that's all you need.
Yes, I do realise what I'm saying here. Yes I did think about this before I wrote it (and yes, I know people, myself included, who have been in very, very damaging relationships)
Ok, that's the scary disclaimer out of the way - very simply, this translates to "Ok, I don't care what that other person is saying, doing or thinking. I'm going to do what I can, from this end." That's all. If you can accept that, then it's very, very simple to do something incredibly effective to turn things around.
Right, moving on.
You have a connection with every person you know. Ok, no surprise there.
These connections can be 'seen'.
On a more sophisticated level, it is possible to work with entire communities of threads at a time, but let's not get into that just yet. We're just going to be working one-on-one.
For the moment, if you imagine any person you know, standing in front of you, then you'll also be able to imagine a thread going out from your heart/chest area to theirs. Don't panic too much about what this is, it's a metaphor, it represents your connection.
If you look at this thread while you're imagining that person there, you'll typically have a pretty good idea just how healthy that thread is (healthy relationship=healthy thread, this isn't rocket science).
When things get mucked up between people, the thread gets twisted, or looks sickly, or dark, or thin.
So, very simply: Concentrate on healing the thread. Do NOT panic about what that person is doing from their end. In my experience? Unless they're aggressively malevolent (which very few people are), or, you know, they just don't want a relationship with you (You can't force someone's will with this), it just doesn't matter too much what they're doing. Me, I just draw light down (imagine a bunch of light coming from the universe, down through my head and out through my chest), then send it down the thread. Don't worry about where it goes after that, just concentrate on the light healing the thread. Making it stronger. Thicker. More vibrant, and, if possible, actual glow with the light that you're sending down. Just keep doing this until it gets as healthy as you want to make it. After all, it is your relationship (and your responsibility)
After that? Well, no, that's it.
Really, that's all there is.
So far in using this tool I've had:
Oh, and if you're worried about it not working, or you think perhaps you haven't got the hang of it.. you can do it as many times as you like - after all, is it possible for something to be too healthy?
Have fun! Good luck..
*ok, so I have no idea how long it takes really, but it's a lot shorter than anything else I've found, and I've never spent more than a few minutes doing it to get these kind of effects.
First, some background.
You must take responsibility for every relationship you have. Regardless of how that other person acts (or doesn't act), there is some part of you that either needs that interaction, or encourages it, or you're there to learn something. If you believe that you're the victim, and that you have no influence whatsoever, well, guess what? You won't. The good news is, as soon as you take responsibility, think/feel & act accordingly, you get massive amounts of control - of yourself, not of them. And that's all you need.
Yes, I do realise what I'm saying here. Yes I did think about this before I wrote it (and yes, I know people, myself included, who have been in very, very damaging relationships)
Ok, that's the scary disclaimer out of the way - very simply, this translates to "Ok, I don't care what that other person is saying, doing or thinking. I'm going to do what I can, from this end." That's all. If you can accept that, then it's very, very simple to do something incredibly effective to turn things around.
Right, moving on.
You have a connection with every person you know. Ok, no surprise there.
These connections can be 'seen'.
On a more sophisticated level, it is possible to work with entire communities of threads at a time, but let's not get into that just yet. We're just going to be working one-on-one.
For the moment, if you imagine any person you know, standing in front of you, then you'll also be able to imagine a thread going out from your heart/chest area to theirs. Don't panic too much about what this is, it's a metaphor, it represents your connection.
If you look at this thread while you're imagining that person there, you'll typically have a pretty good idea just how healthy that thread is (healthy relationship=healthy thread, this isn't rocket science).
When things get mucked up between people, the thread gets twisted, or looks sickly, or dark, or thin.
So, very simply: Concentrate on healing the thread. Do NOT panic about what that person is doing from their end. In my experience? Unless they're aggressively malevolent (which very few people are), or, you know, they just don't want a relationship with you (You can't force someone's will with this), it just doesn't matter too much what they're doing. Me, I just draw light down (imagine a bunch of light coming from the universe, down through my head and out through my chest), then send it down the thread. Don't worry about where it goes after that, just concentrate on the light healing the thread. Making it stronger. Thicker. More vibrant, and, if possible, actual glow with the light that you're sending down. Just keep doing this until it gets as healthy as you want to make it. After all, it is your relationship (and your responsibility)
After that? Well, no, that's it.
Really, that's all there is.
So far in using this tool I've had:
- someone who hadn't been talking to me in months voluntarily start enthusiastically talking to me the next day
- someone else who hadn't been talking to me in months very willing to rekindle the friendship
- someone who had always been standoffish suddenly greeting me like an old friend (took a bit of quick adjusting on my part, it took me completely by surprise!)
- every other relationship I've used it on (fortunately those were the worst ones I had) get noticeably better the next time I saw the person
Oh, and if you're worried about it not working, or you think perhaps you haven't got the hang of it.. you can do it as many times as you like - after all, is it possible for something to be too healthy?
Have fun! Good luck..
*ok, so I have no idea how long it takes really, but it's a lot shorter than anything else I've found, and I've never spent more than a few minutes doing it to get these kind of effects.