Nobody likes everyone's opinions. So, while we can argue them, and give them our assessment on their opinion...we should never grind into the person and make them feel as though their original concept is completely unfounded and unbelievable.
To me, that's the ultimate goal of honesty--to be able to be straightforward in a disagreement, without completely invalidating or belittling the other person...
People should be able to be straightforward with what they think without just putting the other person down. I find a lot of people like to think they are that way and deny the fact that they are just being condesending and arrogant.
I'll always try my best to be respectful...but I do come off as a jerk a lot. I think that's just because I've been a huge jerk for such a long time...haha.
Yeah, I think it's hard to achieve when emotions are running high sometimes. What I tend to judge by is the end result--how the person ultimately acts once things have been cooled down, willingness to talk it out or make gestures of compromise, etc...
Your past DOES matter, but not in any sort of way that changes your future. That's what you have to remember when you start thinking of the past, sweetheart
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Remember when I said a bit of this wouldn't make sense because I chopped it up so much? Yeah, there was a bit more I had written about my past. It's not that my past doesn't matter. But I shouldn't let it effect me. My past is filled with far too much bullshit and most of it gathers into these little balls that like to fizz around in my head and cause problems for the present.
Do you mean would we be different relationship-wise or are you talking about personally?
Heh, you're way more into that everything happens for a reason stuff than I am. So, was there a reason we had to wait so long? I don't know...I do know some reasons, though.
I did see it coming. What I'm referring to is how it is. How much better than I actually thought it would be. We talked about this before.
Why would it scare you that I started writing in here again?
You better never be afraid to say anything in here!!!
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To me, that's the ultimate goal of honesty--to be able to be straightforward in a disagreement, without completely invalidating or belittling the other person...
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I'll always try my best to be respectful...but I do come off as a jerk a lot. I think that's just because I've been a huge jerk for such a long time...haha.
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a private one, i see...
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Yeah, there was a bit more I had written about my past.
It's not that my past doesn't matter. But I shouldn't let it effect me. My past is filled with far too much bullshit and most of it gathers into these little balls that like to fizz around in my head and cause problems for the present.
Do you mean would we be different relationship-wise or are you talking about personally?
Heh, you're way more into that everything happens for a reason stuff than I am. So, was there a reason we had to wait so long? I don't know...I do know some reasons, though.
I did see it coming. What I'm referring to is how it is. How much better than I actually thought it would be. We talked about this before.
Why would it scare you that I started writing in here again?
You better never be afraid to say anything in here!!!
Smile for me.
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