Okey dokey, artichokey! I do think you started things off on the wrong foot with designgirl00 by being overly harsh without much reason when I think she was just looking to vent and share her feelings. However, I recognize that you have a no-nonsense personality and that some people are sensitive to that approach and that makes them automatically defensive and feel misunderstood. I do appreciate that you have made several posts back to her trying to work things out and bring the argument to a close. I can see both of your perspectives and I've told her that as well
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No, you're right on this. I only got the boundary thing going during treatment and it's a skill you have to practice. (I guess I'm lucky in having a mom that doesn't understand what's triggering so I get to tell her it fairly often. :) ) I absolutely know that my initial comment was wrong, and I do feel bad that I set her off like that. But the "kill myself" part upset me. I've been on LJ for a long time (I had a different LJ before this) and a LOT of people have killed themselves over the years. It's not a threat I take lightly anymore. Especially not since industrikittyAnd I do admit I was in a pissy mood when this whole thing started. That was wrong on my part. But she just kept going and since I'm not one to back down, I kept going too
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Well, maybe you can help me set some boundaries myself because I'm not good at it. I'm the resident therapist at work and most of the time it's fine, but one girl comes in every day into my office crying and initially I was sympathetic (she's overwhelmed at having so much work). At this point I just grab my tissues when I see her coming and it's kind of wearing me down that she's always so negative but unwilling to do anything to change it. I don't know how to be sensitive to her, but not get constantly dumped on. Any ideas for me?
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Yes, that'd be cool. I've had an eating disorder for 3 years.
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I absolutely know that my initial comment was wrong, and I do feel bad that I set her off like that.
But the "kill myself" part upset me. I've been on LJ for a long time (I had a different LJ before this) and a LOT of people have killed themselves over the years. It's not a threat I take lightly anymore. Especially not since industrikittyAnd I do admit I was in a pissy mood when this whole thing started. That was wrong on my part. But she just kept going and since I'm not one to back down, I kept going too ( ... )
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Just try not to be too horrified at some of the posts. I've been going through a rough patch lately.
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