Not to belabor the tv=weird point, but my recent cable-having experience has left me with the obvious, maybe, but still unhaimish sense that it's clearly the "experts" who are truly pathological. Anyone who believes that a forcible makeover will fix someone's unexamined inner pain is delusional.
Well, my costume is intended purely as a costume, not as everyday wear. (If you were to encounter me on the street under normal circumstances, you'd find me either in a T-shirt and jeans, or a polo shirt and Dockers, depending on whether I was at a customer site that day.) With that said, were someone to ambush me in that way, I'd tell them to go take a hike: I'm doing what I want, and they can live with it.
It's a shame more folks haven't learned that lesson yet.
Exactly. This makeover mentality is all about comparing everyone to the same arbitrary standard about what looks "best"(according to the relatively arbitrary standards of marketing) --regardless of what causes people joy! This woman may not have been as clear about her costume boundaries as you are --and maybe in her case she would be happier choosing a plainer "street wear" kind of look to avoid negative attention, I don't know-- but nobody even considered her feelings about it. They just assumed that they knew best.
I do think that women get it worse where eccentric clothing (costumes or not) is concerned...at least on TV (I don't see men getting ambushed in the same way, and there seems to be the sense that women have some kind of extra "responsibility" about their appearance...I don't know what your experience says about that.
Well, men have limits too...a woman can walk around in Renaissance-era clothing and draw mostly admiring comments, but if I walked around in my Renaissance faire garb, I'd draw all kinds of negative attention. However, when it comes to everyday wear, men don't usually go to quite the same extremes of range as women do.
Reality TV got a pass from me for awhile for one reason, and one reason only. A guy in my neighborhood was done over by the Queer Eye guys, and they decided his oak bookshelf wasn't acceptable. So he had to get rid of it. It's over 7 feet high, and very solid, and contains all my comic trade paperbacks and sci-fi books. I figured that was absolutely the best thing to put on a Queer Eye-rejected shelf. But it's a seriously solid and dependable shelf, and I wish all my shelves were like it. And it cost me $25
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I understand the dressing plainly thing. Usually I feel too shy to deliberately invite attention to what I'm wearing. Sometimes I get dressed in a gregarious mood and then regret it by lunch. Other times I'm cool with it. It also depends on the type of attention.
But the oak bookshelp. Obviously it's nothing new to point out the frivolity of obsessing about appearances. But an oak bookshelf. I mean, who exactly finds an oak bookshelf offensive? Like personally I have a pet peeve about black furniture, which looks very, this is my hellacious bachelor-den in which I eat frozen pasta with shellfish, to me. Particularly when involving leather. Obviously tastes are tastes and who cares. But so I have to know--when the Queer Eye guys reject all of your stuff...you then have to sell it like tout suite? Isn't that so wasteful? And should I be checking Craigslist for Queer Eye Sales?
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Anyway, ouch. Fucking cars.
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It's a shame more folks haven't learned that lesson yet.
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I do think that women get it worse where eccentric clothing (costumes or not) is concerned...at least on TV (I don't see men getting ambushed in the same way, and there seems to be the sense that women have some kind of extra "responsibility" about their appearance...I don't know what your experience says about that.
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I understand the dressing plainly thing. Usually I feel too shy to deliberately invite attention to what I'm wearing. Sometimes I get dressed in a gregarious mood and then regret it by lunch. Other times I'm cool with it. It also depends on the type of attention.
But the oak bookshelp. Obviously it's nothing new to point out the frivolity of obsessing about appearances. But an oak bookshelf. I mean, who exactly finds an oak bookshelf offensive? Like personally I have a pet peeve about black furniture, which looks very, this is my hellacious bachelor-den in which I eat frozen pasta with shellfish, to me. Particularly when involving leather. Obviously tastes are tastes and who cares. But so I have to know--when the Queer Eye guys reject all of your stuff...you then have to sell it like tout suite? Isn't that so wasteful? And should I be checking Craigslist for Queer Eye Sales?
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