What you describe is quite common when you quit smoking.
Also, I think you are pretty clued up as to why you feel like this. We need things to look forward to.
I tend to compartmentalise when I feel like this. I imagine my life in little boxes.
So box off each part of your life and you can usually see where a problem may lie or why you feel a certain way about something.
Another thing is the time of year. We have long memories which are triggered by weather, or smells, or sounds ... sometimes we can be in a period of our lives where we should be happy, we have achieved lots, but for some reason feel downright miserable. This can sometimes just be the past linking into the present after recognising a trigger ...
But don't over analyse, it can often just be a phase ... time off, or a holiday, or just doing something different can help.
I went on holiday a few weeks ago, went to seen my parents.. I guess maybe that's triggered a lot of it cos I'd almost sorta dealt with them not being around and then spent time over there with them and it's kinda reminded me how much I do miss having them around.
I'm feeling a little better today though.. Went out last night for a drink and a laugh at other peoples' expense (karaoke :))..
i hear you - i wonder if it's a part of growing up? i don't have much social life, and not many people were on AIM anymore so i took a hiatus. but i certainly miss the times i was talking to three or four people at once...
i proud of you for quitting smoking. i hope you keep it up. *big hug*
I think you're right, it could be part of growing up.. I have so many responsibilities that I don't really have the time for a social life at the moment.. I have work and a mortgage so I guess I've reached that stage in life when I'm not supposed to go out all the time, I'm supposed to come home from work exhausted, cook dinner, veg in front of the TV or computer and then go to bed at 9:30 lol.. :)
Usually though we make new friends and stuff at college and those are usually the friendships that last the rest of our lives.. I seem to have skipped that bit though, I went to university but having dropped out at the end of the first year I kinda missed out on the keeping the friendships part..
I'm pleased with my non-smoking progress though.. Thank you for your support.. It really means a lot to me to.. :)
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Also, I think you are pretty clued up as to why you feel like this. We need things to look forward to.
I tend to compartmentalise when I feel like this. I imagine my life in little boxes.
So box off each part of your life and you can usually see where a problem may lie or why you feel a certain way about something.
Another thing is the time of year. We have long memories which are triggered by weather, or smells, or sounds ... sometimes we can be in a period of our lives where we should be happy, we have achieved lots, but for some reason feel downright miserable. This can sometimes just be the past linking into the present after recognising a trigger ...
But don't over analyse, it can often just be a phase ... time off, or a holiday, or just doing something different can help.
*hugs*
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I went on holiday a few weeks ago, went to seen my parents.. I guess maybe that's triggered a lot of it cos I'd almost sorta dealt with them not being around and then spent time over there with them and it's kinda reminded me how much I do miss having them around.
I'm feeling a little better today though.. Went out last night for a drink and a laugh at other peoples' expense (karaoke :))..
We'll see how things go though..
*hugs*
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i proud of you for quitting smoking. i hope you keep it up. *big hug*
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I think you're right, it could be part of growing up.. I have so many responsibilities that I don't really have the time for a social life at the moment.. I have work and a mortgage so I guess I've reached that stage in life when I'm not supposed to go out all the time, I'm supposed to come home from work exhausted, cook dinner, veg in front of the TV or computer and then go to bed at 9:30 lol.. :)
Usually though we make new friends and stuff at college and those are usually the friendships that last the rest of our lives.. I seem to have skipped that bit though, I went to university but having dropped out at the end of the first year I kinda missed out on the keeping the friendships part..
I'm pleased with my non-smoking progress though.. Thank you for your support.. It really means a lot to me to.. :)
*hug*
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