To me its natural to feel dislike for someone who has hurt you before. You might not care about them anymore but when you think about them and what they did to you, you feel dislike or hate towards them. Time heals and maybe you just need more time. You need to try to stop thinking about it though. I understand getting upset if you see her but like that saying goes "out of sight, out of mind." The rest of the time dont think about her or what she did, you dont have to deal with her anymore, be glad.
In a way I never think of my ex I am used to thinking of other stuff. Like what book I am going to read next or what comic I need to buy..which reminds me must go out and buy comics soon.
The issue is just since I don't think about her ever this party has me a bit on edge. I fully get the "its natural to feel dislike for someone who has hurt you before. You might not care about them anymore but when you think about them and what they did to you, you feel dislike or hate towards them.". Its one a close friend who I love hanging out with but my friend is also her friend and the thing is I dont want to ruin her day with my ex possibly wanting to talk.
Is there a nice way to say fuck off and let me enjoy the day lol?
Just ignore her then, could be she might not even want to talk to you. Seems like you arent allowing yourself to enjoy things because you keep thinking of what might happen when none of those things might not even happen.
This is very true. I may just be over analyzing the situation just after her calling me and one or two other small events I am thinking it maybe volatile for us to be in the same room. I have been told the best thing to do is be just friendly treat her like my friend for the length of the party. Then afterwards not even give her a forethought in my mind and just go back to being off the face of the earth to her. I think this maybe the best course of action and the most adult one at best.
Time heals everything. BUt if you're still hurt, then it just mean you haven't given it enough time to heal yet. Once in a while, i dig into an old wound, and if I can still feel the pain, then I know I haven't let it heal. I don't recommend doing that though =p
I think the thing is I just have so little new things to get my mind onto that I end up thinking far too much about my past. It's seemingly like all things get to a point then melt down. In a way I am extremely over my ex just don't want anything to do with her period. At the same time since no new social interactions on a romantic level I keep thinking of what I had.
I think someone wiser then me once suggested its better to be miserable with company then miserable and alone or something to that affect. I think currently that's where I lie Id rather be down with someone then single and down.
I hope this made some sense and doesnt seem more like a mad rambling of ideas.
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The issue is just since I don't think about her ever this party has me a bit on edge. I fully get the "its natural to feel dislike for someone who has hurt you before. You might not care about them anymore but when you think about them and what they did to you, you feel dislike or hate towards them.". Its one a close friend who I love hanging out with but my friend is also her friend and the thing is I dont want to ruin her day with my ex possibly wanting to talk.
Is there a nice way to say fuck off and let me enjoy the day lol?
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Time heals everything. BUt if you're still hurt, then it just mean you haven't given it enough time to heal yet. Once in a while, i dig into an old wound, and if I can still feel the pain, then I know I haven't let it heal. I don't recommend doing that though =p
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I think someone wiser then me once suggested its better to be miserable with company then miserable and alone or something to that affect. I think currently that's where I lie Id rather be down with someone then single and down.
I hope this made some sense and doesnt seem more like a mad rambling of ideas.
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