Comments | nwy: she was right, because moms always are

nwy

she was right, because moms always are

Nov 21, 2007 00:52

so here i am doing so well with my emotional development, facing fears, letting go of people in my life who only drag me down, becoming more self aware of my actions and not letting myself get so defensive or paranoid all the time ( Read more... )

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coyotewolfen November 21 2007, 20:17:28 UTC

Being honest with yourself a problem is half way to the solution.. The longer it takes to build, the longer it will take to break. Some people have natural patients, while others have to learn it and will likely always struggle against a rash nature, but it is that patience that make the impossible attainable, even if it doesn't seem that way in the moment.

If there truly is no room in your world for empathy, then at some point you should accept that this is in your nature, know wht it will mean for you and how you interact with others, and try to make the most of it. Self-honesty, even to those things we dispise in ourselves, is probably just as difficult as trying to change them for the better.

Your friends will decide for themselves if you are deserving of their attention or not. They would not consider you a friend if they did not see some value in being so.

So.. change! ex_boheemus171 November 23 2007, 08:27:59 UTC

I know it's easy to just say 'change' what you don't like about yourself. Sadly it's too easy just to slip back into the way you're used to being cause you know what to expect. But, if you really feel this lack of empathy is causing too much hardship on your life and the life of people around you then change.

You also keep wondering why people are around you if you're 'mean' and hurtful (keep in mind I haven't witnessed any of this myself!) but you have to consider that some of us out there do have empathy. We know what to expect if we ever get to know someone, that there are going to be characteristics that we dislike.... The question always comes down to 'do they outweigh the benifits of knowing this person or not?'

If you ever need someone to talk to, a shoulder to cry on... or hell, even someone to throw fists at, look me up! I'm good for all those things.

~B~