It's been a rollercoaster year, culminating this morning when Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer

[obsessionality]

Yeah

Comments

[canadaphile]

My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. It's all over his body, BUT the chemotherapy and radiation has been helping. If your mom's was caught so soon, that is super good news! Fear is understandable, but waiting around will not help at all. Get the second opinions, but I think that the initial treatment would probably be best, if it will remove the cancer entirely. Then no more worries, maybe just a few more scans and doctor visits to be sure it's gone

[poniesandphotos]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. How scary. But. like you said, it is good that it was caught so early. I'm so glad you convinced her to go get the test, it is much better to know than not know.

I Think it seems like a good plan to unplug the phone tomorrow and let your mom have a little peace and quiet. Hopefully your dad can make that happen for her.

*hug*

Congrats on graduation. You've worked hard for this, you deserve to be happy about it and enjoy your social schedule. I know it is hard when there is family stuff going on, but try to not worry too much. Worrying will not change the diagnosis, being upbeat and supportive for your mom, however, might make her feel better about it.

[voodoohedghog]

This is a wonderful thing, in a way. Locating a pre-cancer like this is modern medicine being successful and useful (it isn't always!) Your mom is lucky and is in no real danger at this point, since they caught it at this stage, I'd consider this a win. She's in far more danger getting into a moving vehicle than dying of breast cancer at the moment. I'd counsel conservative treatment, no need to consider mastectomies or chemo at a stage 0 - but what do I know, I'm not a doctor? I've just known two ladies who have survived breast cancer and one who hasn't. I held her hand until the end though. But her medical charts were a whole different thing. Her situation was one that didn't get caught. (sings "nobody knows the trouble I seen")

Unplug that phone. If I had anyone calling me at that rate, let alone family, I'd destroy my phone forever, but then again I don't have much in the way of family. Am I lucky? I don't know...

Congrats to you and Good luck honey! *hugs*

[vikingprincess]

Oh, honey. Exhausting yourself and missing out on seeing your friends won't hurt your mom, and it will hurt you. When you're too tired to go, just don't. When you need to cry, do. All you can do - and I know, from when my mom was diagnosed - is give her what she wants, when she wants it, and be there for her as much as distance will allow

[i_llbedammned]

At least they caught the cancer early. The earlier they catch it the more likely it is that nothing will come of it. It is lucky she went for the mammogram when she did.

Wow. Cancer is never easy, but the emotional tensions seem to have driven them to extremes. It's like putting gunpowder in a keg and this is the spark that set them off.

You need to allow yourself to panic, at least for a little. It gets it out of your system so you can move on with your life. And twelve hours is a really short period of time before you start telling someone that they need to not give in an be a victim.

I am glad that your finals went well!

Maybe being around people will help distract you from family drama? You don't need to feel guilty, life moves on no matter the circumstances.