*SEX*

[ocean_paradise]

Please give me your opinion.....

What do you think about SEX outside of a relationship? and Why do you think what you think?

Thanks for all your input.

~Melissa

Comments

[invisible_kid]

well as long as you're not IN a relationship with someone else!

That's actually a tough call, really it depends on the people, for some people it might not be a big deal, where as for others it just doesn't feel right at all.

[omegabonachega]

i am going to say that it can only lead to a lot of hurt feelings and confusion. unless both people agree that sex is just sex and means nothing else then there is going to be confusion. if you don't see eye to eye on everything you are doing then you shouldn't be doing it because it will end up hurting you or the other person. the relationship allows for you to talk about it and come to a comprimise on things. it also allows for a state of emotional intimacy that allows for a lot more trust and and more understanding. without that i think it can only lead to someone getting hurt.

which brings me to random hook ups, they usually happen when drinking is involved, and i think that it is a simple case of people searcing for exceptance.

[invisible_kid]

i totally agree. if one person doesn't expect a relationship, and the other does, or only one person has feelings it's gonna wind up with someone getting hurt.

[l0vesit]

i agree. there cannot be any feelings involved. it can only be sex.
if one person wants more and the other only wants to get some you are asking for an emotional disaster.
but if both honestly only wanna get some action and no one is going to feel used afterwards then i guess it comes down to being comfortable enough to get naked in front on them! haha

[omegabonachega]

the only problem i see with this way of thinking though is that i don't think there can ever be no feelings involved. you always, weather you think you are mature enough or detatched enough, still invest feelings. esspecially girls, i think it is a lot easier for guys to just detach themselves. it seems like just an easy way to hurt yourself.

i would also like to hear melissa's view on the subject!

[shh_are_oh_lot]

haha gee melissa, you definitly know what i'm going to say!i dont see how it is okay for people with any kind of self respect. anyone worth sharing yourself with should be worth the relationship to go along with it. once you have the relationship established, go ahead and decide together how long you want to wait, but otherwise, i would never.
it all depends on morals and beliefs i suppose..

[goudy]

i think its perfectly ok as long as you think you are mature enough to deal with any repercussions that may be involved, but that goes for sex in general anyways.
always remember: no glove, no love

[jasbris]

As long as you're single, it's a lot of fun.