"'Duke Mu of Chin said to Po Lo: "You are now advanced in years. Is there any member of your family whom I could employ to look for horses in your stead?" Po Lo replied: "A good horse can be picked out by its general build and appearance. But the superlative horse--one that raises no dust and leaves no tracks--is something evanescent and fleeting, ( Read more... )

"Sore feelings" doesn't even approach being accurately descriptive, you know.

You really do just replace everyone in the blink of an eye. You really don't give a fuck about the damage you leave behind.

There's nothing I'm ever going to be able to do that actually fucking matters.

The thing is, apparently (and oh I've been wrestling with psychology texts for days trying to pinpoint this) is that harm caused and forgiveness offered wind down to stages; you cannot fully forgive someone who never feels sorrow or a need to repair harm done, either to you or to their principles. This doesn't tend to be that blatant, particularly ( Read more... )

Plus, Johnny, if you're going to cry that you've never been so bloody misunderstood in your arbitrary requests, at least cop to the invitation you left open for me to write to you in the future, the multiple times you assured me that what you wanted more was to be good friends again but you'd made an arbitrary decision, and accept that your version ( Read more... )

The funniest thing about the whole fucked-up mess is that people, unsolicited, very readily ask me to look at you in a way that strikes me as borderline sociopathic by thinking of it as an investment that went wrong--and yet, if you had actually been exploiting me for money instead of emotional comfort, if you had followed this precise pattern and ( Read more... )

When you were my age, you leaned on me pretty heavily, and I didn't really mind, because you were going through some horrifying things and you made it clear to me that I was helping you through and that you'd do the same for me and it was right and appropriate to trust you and treat you as the best friend you claimed to be; now I'm going through ( Read more... )

Okay, look, "Johnny M ( Read more... )

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